(Taken from sources online and survivors of such tragic events!)
– First sign of an active shooter and you’re in a classroom: lock the door, turn off the lights, get as far away from the door as possible, use any object available to cover your body/head. Turn the desks sideways and use them as a barricade. Books. Filing cabinets. Shelves.
– If you’re hiding in a classroom and you hear someone say “POLICE! OPEN UP.” Do not open that door! Shooters often impersonate the police in order to get people to open the door.
– If you find yourself outside when the shooting takes place: run to the nearest road/shop/establishment while calling authorities.
– If you’ve found a hiding place, turn your phone on silent/‘do not disturb’
– Avoid videoing the shooting. This gives you tunnel-vision and may take you out of survival mode!
– Know your exit strategy: Make sure you know where your exits are and RUN.
– FIGHT. If unable to run or hide, and you come face to face with the shooter. Fight! John Bruner, a 20-year law-enforcement veteran who is the former Chief County Detective with the Greene County (Pa.) District Attorney’s Office.. “you have to fight for your life,” Scissors, hot coffee, the coffee carafe, other glass objects from an office pantry, for example. Fire extinguishers, either engaged or as a weapon to inflict blunt force trauma, are good. Books, Chairs, Shoes, FISTS.
– He also states, ”Most people who are shot by a gun survive. So understand that and cling to that. Just keep fighting. … You want to buy time. You want to distract this person, because it’s going to take police three or four minutes to get there.“
– If you’re running away from the shooter, run in a Zig-Zag!! This lessens the chances of getting shot in areas that may be fatal. The fatal areas are the torso, head and back: if you can, use your hands to cover these areas.
– If you find yourself in the hallway and the shooter is firing their gun (if you can’t run), play dead! Make sure your body is facing down so you can breathe/blink without fear of doing so. It is more likely than not that they won’t shoot you as they want to preserve their bullets.
– If you see/ hear anything, report it! Action is key in a school shooting, time is precious. The first sign of something “not quite right” report it and call authorities.
* these are obviously tips and some guidance. In the actual moment of a shooting, trauma and fear set in and actions become unpredictable *
it’s horrible that i need to know this kind of thing. but thank you so much
This whole “trust Tumblr blindly” thing is eventually going to kill someone, as I became pointedly aware of on one occasion I was making fun of how poorly a particular bleach-based drain declogger was working on my sink and got a chorus of really dangerously misinformed people telling me to pour vinegar in after it because all cute little cool kid diy home care blogs they’re following talk about vinegar like it it’s the big secret the cleaning companies don’t want you to know.
And I cringed knowing that someday, some Well Actually expert who read a blog article once is going to give that advice to someone who unfortunately didn’t take high school chemistry and isn’t aware that MIXING VINEGAR AND BLEACH MAKES CHLORINE GAS.
holy fucking jesus tits reblog to save a life
OK I actually got a full on A* for GCSE Chemistry and if I ever knew this I’ve forgotten it. Seriously reblog this.
Also don’t use bleach to clean up if your cat pees outside the littlerbox (or urine in general for that matter, species doesn’t really matter here I think). I did that in a small space and it took me a bit of coughing and wheezing and wanting to tear my eyes out before I went, “wait, fuck, I just gassed myself”.
Be aware of the chemicals you are using even if they are natural cleaners.
1. Tenderly. Show her love, show her compassion, treat her gently. Some days she needs to be treated delicately.
2. But, treat her like she’s strong. She is. Let her know that you know she’s a warrior.
3. Check, and double check, and triple check that she is completely comfortable with any sexual activities the two of you partake in. Don’t just accept a yes. Check for body language, her facial expressions, her tone of voice. Do not go forward until you have established her comfort fully.
4. Don’t get upset when she isn’t comfortable doing whatever sexual activity you suggest. Dont be pushy, and never force it. Let her set the boundaries. Respect them.
5. Don’t become upset if she suddenly seems far away, or like she’s not paying attention, during sex. She’s probably disassociating. Stop. Do not continue to have sex with her. Let her come back to life.
6. Encourage, and if she’s comfortable, participate in her healing. If she needs help finding a therapist, or wants to see a psychiatrist, or needs a support group, do what you can to help her with these needs.
7. Do not ask about parts of her story she doesn’t readily tell. Maybe she’ll tell you details, maybe she won’t. Let her share what she wants and don’t pry into what she doesn’t. Never, ever suggest doubt or blame on any part of her story. Expect to be met with extremely negative emotions if you try to invalidate her.
8. When she wakes up crying during the middle of the night from the nightmares she has about her incident or attacker, get her a glass of water. Make her tea. Comfort her in some way.
9. Remind when you have to that it wasn’t her fault. That she is still a wonderful and beautiful and whole human being who has so much to offer the world. She will have periods of extreme depression. She will feel like she is worthless, or dirty or incomplete. She may feel suicidal or have self destructive behaviors. Help her see the good in herself when she cannot.
10. Stand up for her, and all other victims of rape or sexual assault when it comes to victim blaming. Slut shaming. Your friends making rape jokes and talking about fucking too drunk girls. Discourage this behavior. Call them out on being fucking shit bags. Have her back.
11. Be honest, all the time. She probably has extreme trust issues. Help her heal these. Help her regain trust in people.
12. Treat her in ways that pamper and relax her physically. It doesn’t have to be all the time, but if you can afford it pay for her to get her nails or hair done, maybe get a massage. Feeling comfortable in your own skin, let alone having a stranger touch it, after an assault is extremely difficult. I’ve found small activities like these have helped me personally become more comfortable with touch overall.
13. When it comes to your physical interactions with her, always start slow. Always approach slow. Kiss her gently, hug her softly, until you fully understand her comfort level with touch.
14. Avoid her triggers. If she can’t stand to watch movies that have scenes of rape or sexual assault, don’t bring her to them or have them on while she’s around. If there was a song related to her attack, don’t play it when she can hear it. Learn what these might be from her and do your best to keep them out of her life.
15. Give her the attention she needs when she needs it, and the alone time she needs as well. If she doesn’t want to be around you it doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you, she just needs time to herself. All people do, but in my experience victims can be much more one way or another on the spectrum, meaning she may crave constant attention, or want much more alone time than you’re used to.
16. Accept her, and her trauma. And if you can’t deal with the truth and ugliness that comes along with rape- the PTSD, the flinching at intimacy, the night terrors, the poor communication skills, the sometimes desperate need to be validated in feelings and love- then leave. She is who she is because of what has happened to her. You cannot take her trauma away. You cannot change her. You can try and help but you’ll never repair the damage that was done. The last thing she needs is a man coming into her life and treating her like shit because she was ASSAULTED.
17. Assure her of your love and protection often. Tell her you’ll never hurt her, and don’t. Tell her you love her, and mean it. And then act on it. Be a good partner, and be a good lover. Rape and assault victims are incredibly strong and beautiful people, who are able to offer so much compassion and love to the world because they have seen and felt the exact opposite of compassion and love. They have felt hatred and pain and control, and many of them will go above and beyond to prevent others from feeling these things.
If any of this seems too difficult for you, or maybe you just don’t want to do it.. Don’t date that girl. You don’t deserve her, and she deserves a partner who will treat her like she’s meant to be treated. And to all my fellow rape and sexual assault survivors, do not put up with a man (or woman) who doesn’t think about your trauma and do what he has to to be in a relationship with you. If the partners you’ve been with aren’t living up to the standard you need, just stay single. You’ll meet someone someday who will be perfect for you, and treat you gently, and kiss your tears away and calm your fears, and make you remember that sex can feel good and be fun and not be a painful and tortuous trip into your own head time and time again. You’ll meet someone who will care for and respect your body. And it will all be worth the wait. You are beautiful, strong, and WORTHY.
This is very important. I hope everyone reads this.
FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING GOOD IN THIS WORLD STOP REPOSTING ART, ESPECIALLY WITHOUT CREDIT AND ESPECIALLY IF THE ARTISTS SAYS NOT TO, WITH OR WITHOUT CREDIT!!!!! I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW MANY TIMES I’VE SUCH EXTREMELY TALENTED ARTISTS STOP DRAWING BECAUSE PEOPLE DON’T KNOW HOW TO RESPECT OTHERS’ WISHES! AND IT’S NOT JUST ONE FANDOM, NO, A FEW EXAMPLES: – SANDERS SIDES – MARKIPLIER FANDOM – EVERY MUSICAL FANDOM – VOLTRON – ANY VIDEO GAME FANDOM – SO, SO, SO MANY TV SHOWS AND MOVIES’ FANDOMS AND THAT’S NOT EVEN IT, SO PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE STOP REPOSTING/STEALING/CROPPING OUT WATERMARKS & SIGNATURES/ PLAGIARIZING/DENYING ARTIST TO TAKE DOWN REPOSTED ART IT WILL NOT BENEFIT YOU OR ANYONE ELSE. LET ARTISTS EXPRESS THEIR CREATIVITY WITHOUT THE FEAR OF SOMEONE STEALING THEIR ART. AND NO, IT’S NOT JUST HERE ON TUMBLR, IT’S ON EVERY DAMN FORMING ON IMAGE SHARING! INSTAGRAM, SNAPCHAT, TWITTER, YOUTUBE, PINTEREST, FACEBOOK, ETC. SO PLEASE DO NOT!!!!!!!!! AND SPREAD THIS MESSAGE TO EVERYONE, REBLOG THIS MESSAGE, NOT SOMEONE ELSE’S ART! THAT CAN GO A LONG WAY!!!
I work in hotels/resorts, and honestly, take the little shampoos and soaps! We throw them away when you leave (we don’t know if you’ve opened them and messed with them or whatever, so for health and safety it all goes in the trash) If you stay at the fancier places or chains, they’ve actually done some bit of thought into the scents for the toiletries, in that if you use them while at home you’ll remember the time you stayed at the hotel and be more likely to return.
Just don’t take the towels or the robes or any of that shit, it’s expensive.
This is true, all soaps, shampoos, and the like are tossed after a guest checks out of the hotel even if it’s clearly unopened because it is considered a health hazard violation in most places if they’re left there. If someone were to somehow get sick from it, a hotel can be shut down. Just take the toiletries, they’re ordered in bulk as is and only cost the hotel a few dollars to order them by the hundreds
And even if you don’t use them, you can donate them to your local homeless shelter or other similar charity and give someone something they could use that would otherwise go to waste.
PLEASE TAKE THE SOAPS. PLEASE DONATE THE SOAPS. It’s one of the biggest requests shelters/supply banks get. You want to make their fucking day? Show up with socks, undies, diapers, and toiletries.
And here I am not taking them to avoid being wasteful.
And here I was not wanting to steal things from the hotels. The more you know.
Little known fact: all Capitalists want is to steak from them! Just go for it!
Since once in a blue moon I actually discover a decent rule for adulting, and since I know I have followers a few years younger than me who are just entering the workforce, I want to tell you about a very important phrase.
“I won’t be available.”
Imagine you’re at work and your boss asks you to come in on Saturday. Saturday is usually your day off–coming in Saturdays is not an obligation to keep your job. Maybe you were going to watch a movie with a friend, or maybe you were just going to lie in bed and eat ice cream for eight hours, but either way you really, really don’t want to give up your day off.
If you consider yourself a millennial you’ve probably been raised to believe you need to justify not being constantly at work. And if you’re a gen-Z kid you’re likely getting the same toxic messages that we did. So in a situation like that, you might be inclined to do one of three things:
Tell your boss you’d rather not give up your day off. Cave when they pressure you to come in anyway, since you’re not doing anything important.
Tell your boss you’d rather not give up your day off. Over-apologize and worry that you looked bad/unprofessional.
Lie and say you’ve got a doctor’s appointment or some other activity that feels like an adequate justification for not working.
The fact is, it doesn’t matter to your boss whether you’re having open heart surgery or watching anime in your underwear on Saturday. The only thing that affects them is the fact that you won’t be at work. So telling them why you won’t be at work only gives them reason to try and pressure you to come in anyway.
If you say “I won’t be available,” giving no further information, you’d be surprised how often that’s enough. Be polite and sympathetic in your tone, maybe even say “sorry, but I won’t be available.” But don’t make an excuse. If your boss is a professional individual, they’ll accept that as a ‘no’ and try to find someone else.
But bosses aren’t always professional. Sometimes they’re whiny little tyrants. So, what if they pressure you further? The answer is–politely and sympathetically give them no further information.
“Are you sure you’re not available?” “Sorry, but yes.”
“Why won’t you be available?” “I have a prior commitment.” (Which you do, even if it’s only to yourself.)
“What’s your prior commitment?” “Sorry, but that’s kind of personal.”
“Can you reschedule it?” “I’m afraid not. Maybe someone else can come in?”
If you don’t give them anything to work with, they can’t pressure you into going beyond your obligations as an employee. And when they realize that, they’ll also realize they have to find someone else to come in and move on.
IMPORTANT!! PLEASE READ!!
Just like with many other parts of life, learn to say ‘no’ to people. You are important. Don’t kill yourself for another person, esp. if they are your boss.
Friendly reminder that activated charcoal, even when put into food as a black colorant, binds to medication and can make it ineffective. Yes, this includes birth control! I thought I’d put this PSA out there since people are making spooky “black” versions of normal foods.
I wish more people got this because some ‘low-empathy’ people are the most compassionate and sympathetic in the universe, and I hate it when that’s taken to mean ‘unfeeling and probably hostile’ when nothing could be further from the truth
Or, as my dad put it,
Sympathy: I know how you feel Empathy: I feel how you feel Compassion: is there anything I can do to help?
Sympathy: that sucks bro empathy: I feel that compassion: want me to send you some puppy and kitten pictures to make you feel better?
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