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Tag: important
The thing with statistics – via
Numbers don’t lie but people can sure as fuck pick and choose the numbers they give you and phrase things to make them sound like they mean things they don’t
learn fucking stats or at least how they can hurt
As a wise man once said: There are lies, damned lies, and statistics.
It’s okay if you’re only touch averse some of the time
It’s okay if your touch aversion only applies to some types of physical contact
It’s okay if your touch aversion only applies to some parts of your body
It’s okay if your touch aversion only applies to some people
It’s okay if your touch aversion doesn’t apply to some people
It’s okay if your touch aversion is dependent on your mood
You’re valid. Your touch aversion is valid. You deserve to have your boundaries respected whether your touch aversion is consistent or not.
assuming that everyone around you is neurotypical and/or mentally healthy is narrow minded, unrealistic, and honestly just kinda dumb. and so is expecting everyone around you to function at a neurotypical and/or mentally healthy level. some people (and it’s definitely more than you think) literally cannot do things that others can or find easy to do. additionally, expecting people to disclose their entire life story and/or any of their diagnoses is invasive and exhausting, and shouldn’t be a requirement for being taken seriously/for not automatically participating in societally deemed normal things.
I wish more people got this because some ‘low-empathy’ people are the most compassionate and sympathetic in the universe, and I hate it when that’s taken to mean ‘unfeeling and probably hostile’ when nothing could be further from the truth
Or, as my dad put it,
Sympathy: I know how you feel
Empathy: I feel how you feel
Compassion: is there anything I can do to help?Sympathy: that sucks bro
empathy: I feel that
compassion: want me to send you some puppy and kitten pictures to make you feel better?Posts like this make me feel so much better. It always seems like society treat responses to others pain as though empathy is the most important kind. I am around 85% compassionate and this post helped me not feel like I am a monster because of that for once.
reminder: you don’t have to be constantly “testing your limits” or trying to work harder and harder. sometimes it’s okay to just realize that you have limits. you are not a machine. you need to take breaks, you need to relax and you need to let go.
you know what’s wild is that all these crazy standards we hold ourselves to are things that we don’t even value in another person? like i’ve never been like “wow I love that this friend of mine is too proud to ask for help and never complains about their feelings” or “my favorite quality about this friend is that they get straight A’s and never get overwhelmed and has never told me about a problem” or “i love that this friend has never been wrong about anything or slipped up and said something embarrassing once in their life” and yet here we are, pushing ourselves past our limits for and beating ourselves up over slipups of things that our friends probably wouldn’t even rank in the top 50 reasons they like us
be kind to people, including yourself.
“I once witnessed you knowing that 4+3=7, so you should have no trouble with multivariable calculus.”
That statement is ridiculous. So why are the following statements accepted as fact?
“I once saw you stand for 3 seconds to reach something, so you don’t really need that wheelchair.”
“I once saw you taking to someone, so you can’t possibly struggle to make conversation.”
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