some of yall really looked at neurodivergent people using infantalizing to describe actual ableism and decided “oh yeah i should call any sort of ND aid *i* dont need infantalizing because obviously the world revolves around my experience!” and it shows
THIS. I get so fed up of people who act like acknowledging disabled people are disabled is the same thing as infantilisation.
It seems to get especially bad in developmental disability circles. There’s so much “Well I’m autistic/have ADHD* and I’m a normal functional adult and super smart, so clearly any DD person who needs help with/struggles to understand certain things is just a liar who could do/understand the thing just fine if they tried!!!1!1!” rhetoric.
(* – Not that autism and ADHD are the only two developmental disabilities, but people on social media act like they are.)
guys again please please please please please please please think critically about those posts that are like “i didn’t realize [really common or nonspecific thing] was an adhd thing and doesn’t apply to neurotypicals/anyone else at all!!” bc a lot of the time they are completely unfounded (sometimes frankly insane) and give people really messed up ideas about the differences between nd and nt people and how those differences work. and that shit doesn’t help anybody in any way! you don’t have to pathologize and essentialize everything you do, and you shouldn’t build up firm definitional barriers between neurotypes that don’t really exist. i’m talking about that friendship post specifically rn which is a prime example (come on, you can’t characterize how all people of a certain neurotype manage something as infinitely complex as human friendship), but it applies to SO many other things i’ve seen floating around i feel like i make this post every other day. the mental math thing comes readily to mind too.. honestly just think about these things before u spread them like true information, check the sources or go find sources at least.. please
I don’t know who needs to hear this but I REALLY REALLY hope you guys realize neurodivieristy doesn’t just start and end up with Austim and ADHD
Like it’s great people are become aware! And learning more about this But it seems that people only pretend these are the only two and if you don’t have these two then I guess you don’t count??????
remember the rest of us and stick up for each other when we can
id: a screenshot taken from what looks like wikipedia that reads (with original footnote markers removed)
The neurodiversity paradigm was taken up first by individuals on the autism spectrum. Subsequently, it was applied to other neurodevelopmental disorders such as ADHD, developmental speech disorders, dyspraxia, dyscalculia, dysnomia, intellectual disability and Tourette syndrome; and mental health conditions such as bipolarity, schizophrenia, schizoaffective-disorder, antisocial personality disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder.
adhd student: i love learning and i actually hunger for knowledge, but the way the school system currently operates doesn’t work well for people with brains like mine. i am capable of maintaining acceptable and even good grades, but it takes about 3x the time and effort of the average student. all my life i have been receiving messages, overt and subtle, that i am deficient, lazy, and/or weird for my inability to perform well in that environment, and my self-worth has been utterly decimated as a result.
what ppl hear:
Also
Adhd person: I’m naturally good at remembering information and am lucky enough to be good at standardized tests but because of this I’ve never had to try in school and now that the work is exponentially harder I’m struggling
What ppl hear: I’m lazy and don’t wanna put in any effort
Also See:
Adhd person: I have this one hyperfixation and I know everything there is to know about it. (Ie, I can read Korean, I taught it to myself!)
What ppl hear: My hobbies are more important than passing school and being successful in life
People who are welcome into ADHD spaces: ‘Oh hey I think I might have ADHD/ADD because I relate to a lot of stuff you do/think/feel but I haven’t gone to a therapist to get officially diagnosed because I am scared/ my parents would laugh it off/ i don’t have money/ I am embarrassed/ I don’t have time/ I am not ready to fully face it yet’
People who are NOT welcome into ADHD spaces: ‘HAHAHA we are all a little ADHD sometimes! / OMG I get bored too! / Yeah I am so lazy also! / Lol I am always late as well! / You are overreacting! / But you are so smart/ quiet/ good!
(I wouldn’t usually post pics from others like this but this is a really good infographic. I have also messaged them on instagram and suggested they make an ADHD infographic account, which I’d share. It’s just really good and I hope they make more.)
CHOICE PARALYSYS????
THAT ISN’T JUST ME??????
OH MY GOD I’VE BEEN BEATING MYSELF UP OVER THAT FOR Y E A R S I HAD NO IDEA IT WAS AN ADHD THING
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