Tag: you know.

liliac-gold:

Everytime i see a post where a troll pretending to be an asexual adds something dumb to some post and another person “drags” them about how embarrassing ace people r and gets like 78k notes on the post i literally die a little bit inside.Why do people hate asexuals so much.I wish i was living in a world where my existence wasnt used as a punchline in a stupid post or tweet ugh

Personality disorders and why you shouldn’t/can’t self diagnose them

i-have-opinions:

The most common self diagnosis on tumblr seems to be personality disorders. Self diagnosis in general is bad, but self diagnosing PDs is especially bad considering most people seem to use it as an excuse to be manipulative or petty.

A big problem with self diagnosing PDs is that many symptoms are symptoms of other more common mental disorders. An example would be someone with more social anxiety may think they have AvPD because the symptoms are very similar.

Another problem is when self diagnosing people will attempt to identify with symptoms more than they really do. For example, some symptoms of cluster b PDs are impulsivity, being overly dramatic, and erratic emotions all of which are common symptoms of bipolar disorder. The difference being for those with bipolar disorder these symptoms are only present during manic episodes, however those with PDs the symptoms are always present.

Those with personality disorders are usually unaware of their disorder because unlike most other mental illnesses, PDs do not cause the sufferer distress in the same way. People with PDs struggle with relationships, school, and work like those with other mental disorders but don’t or can’t acknowledge there is a problem.

The last reason I’ll give is that personality disorder are quite rare compared to other mental disorders. While some PDs are more common then others disorders like depression and anxiety heavily out weigh them.

If you truly believe you are suffering from a personality disorder seek help. Just claiming to have a disorder is not going to improve your mental health nor is it helping the stigma around less common and more serous mental disorders.

karynchaotic:

if you see someone active on social media or something, and you message them, and they don’t reply, they don’t have to. just because they are awake and alive does not mean they have to engage with you whenever you want them to. you are not entitled to someone else’s time. 

in the past, an abuser would see me post online and then hound me on aim until i answered. i felt like i had to hide. they also lived in my building and would pound on my door if they saw me online and i wasn’t responding to them. i had to completely ditch a screenname, lie about having skype, and turn off my phone to hide. if i saw they were online i couldn’t post on facebook or interact with anyone without them demanding to interact with me. the only legitimate excuse not to talk to them was being asleep. in their eyes, if i were really their friend, i would always want to engage no matter what, even if i had a migraine or work to do or wasn’t feeling very social. it didn’t matter. 

please do not do this. if someone doesn’t write you back, don’t guilt them about where they are or what they’re doing. if you see someone posting on tumblr or facebook and they aren’t signed into aim or google or skype or whatever, that’s their business. if they are signed on but don’t write you back, it’s okay. sometimes people can’t talk to everyone all the time every time. some people can only talk to one person at a time without getting overloaded. some people are signed on in case someone needs to contact them with something important and not to be social. they’re not always hiding from you, and you shouldn’t make them feel like they HAVE to hide from you.

this is probably jumbled and i’m probably missing a lot here, but pressuring people to always be available to you every hour of the day and always answer the phone or text or chat or pm or whatever…if you require that of someone, you might need to take a step back.

targuzzler:

trump: *starts the process of wiping out net neutrality, an objectively horrible thing for everone that isn’t a massive telecom company executive and will cause untold levels of damage on our ability to communicate through the internet*

media: 

trump: *makes a spelling mistake on twitter*

media: OMG have you heard of 

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