Anyone else’s blogs turning into a mix of lighthearted fandom content and deeply upsetting politics? Cause mine is.
Tag: yep!
reblog if you’re def the kind of person who
- says “cool beans”
- does finger guns
- says “coolio”
- “my guy”
- “my dude”
- ironically said “get rekt scrub” and now can’t stop
- “ayyeee”
- makes a lot of weird faces
I relate to this post on a spiritual level
things straight girls need to stop doing
- referring to platonic female friends as their “girlfriends”
- saying the words “dyke” or “lesbo”
- “marrying” their female friends on facebook as a joke
- assuming every lesbian/bi/pan girl is attracted to her
- saying that theyre “gay” because they like men
- telling trans men that they “make them question their sexuality”
7. Hitting on trans women and saying it’s straight cause “you have a cock and I like those.”
8. Purposely trying to expose and talk about their bodies in front of queer girls in a ‘you can’t have this’ way
9. Assuming something has definitely happened between their female queer friends
10. Saying they’re accepting then pulling a face at anything ‘lesbian-ish’ mentioned or done in front of them
11: Treat their LGBTA+ friends and aquaintances aß assecoires. “This is Brad, my gay.” We’re not your pets.
12: Say: “Oh, you wouldn’t understand, it’s about a guy”/“It’s a straight thing”. Like what, you think we lack basic empathy?
12. Talking about being “a gay guy trapped in a straight girl’s body”
13. Hypersexualizing achillean relationships, calling two men sharing affection “sinful”
14. Treating and referring to their trans guy friends as females
I don’t want to get into this discourse at length right now, but look:
The idea that every single self-diagnosis is absolutely going to be correct and valid is just as ridiculous as the idea that every single self-diagnosis is absolutely going to be incorrect and invalid. That’s just not how the world works. There’s always grey area. There are going to be some people who get it right, and there are going to be some people who get it wrong. Hell, some doctors get it wrong. I was misdiagnosed by licensed and well-respected psychiatrists, not once, but multiple times.
I’m not going to get into the argument of whether or not people should self-diagnose, or under what circumstances it is or isn’t appropriate, because that’s a much longer and more complicated conversation. I am explicitly NOT stating my opinion about it in this post, because I don’t have the energy to do that topic justice at the moment; a simple yes/no answer would ignore a lot of important nuance.
All I’m saying here, and this really shouldn’t be too controversial a statement, is that these blanket statements of “every self-diagnosis is valid and correct” or “every self-diagnosis is invalid and incorrect” are both unrealistic and intellectually dishonest. Hard binaries don’t apply to complex topics like this. Simplistic, reductive arguments in either direction are both needlessly combative and ignorant. The truth, being a tricky mess as it often is, is far more complicated than that.
And in the meantime, you are welcome at my blog regardless of your method of diagnosis, or even if you have none of any sort.
Don’t come at anyone’s insecurities during an argument. That’s dirty and shows who you really are
One of the main reasons why I end friendships is if they use my insecurities against me.
You can meet someone tomorrow who has better intentions for you than someone you’ve known for years, time means nothing; character does.
things straight girls need to stop doing
- referring to platonic female friends as their “girlfriends”
- saying the words “dyke” or “lesbo”
- “marrying” their female friends on facebook as a joke
- assuming every lesbian/bi/pan girl is attracted to her
- saying that theyre “gay” because they like men
- telling trans men that they “make them question their sexuality”
7. Hitting on trans women and saying it’s straight cause “you have a cock and I like those.”
8. Purposely trying to expose and talk about their bodies in front of queer girls in a ‘you can’t have this’ way
9. Assuming something has definitely happened between their female queer friends
10. Saying they’re accepting then pulling a face at anything ‘lesbian-ish’ mentioned or done in front of them
11: Treat their LGBTA+ friends and aquaintances aß assecoires. “This is Brad, my gay.” We’re not your pets.
12: Say: “Oh, you wouldn’t understand, it’s about a guy”/“It’s a straight thing”. Like what, you think we lack basic empathy?
12. Talking about being “a gay guy trapped in a straight girl’s body”
13. Hypersexualizing achillean relationships, calling two men sharing affection “sinful”
14. Treating and referring to their trans guy friends as females
I think a fundamental part of online friendships that people ‘outside’ fail to understand is how comforting it is to have friends right there in your pocket who will keep you company in good times and bad, listen to your rants, let you vent, be supportive whilst offering outsider perspective…
- Need to be alone but need support too? Pocket friends.
- Something awful just happened and there’s nobody around for you to tell? Pocket friends.
- Need to let your feelings out but don’t want people to see you ugly-cry? Pocket friends.
Keep being amazing, pocket friends. You couldn’t possibly imagine how important you are.
“I’m not trans phobic I just don’t think trans women can be lesbians” is the cis version of “Im not homophobic I just don’t support gay marriage”