You shouldn’t be treating nb people like the secret sexy 3rd gender. Nb people don’t look like a mash of male and female, they’re not sexy androgynous twinks
white skinny androgynous nb people reblogging this and saying shit like “Well this is what I look like! So I feel represented!” Are literally part of the problem. I’m not saying that no nb people are white/skinny/andro, I’m saying that those are the only type of nb bodies that get represented
its nice, isnt it, when nonbinary people are visibly distinct from binary people? its easy, isnt it? you can remember to use “they” for people who have no visible breasts or beards, right? no need to challenge the notion of male vs female if nonbinary people have their own look, isnt that right?
its time to step the fuck up and really understand that nonbinary looks like anybody. nonbinary looks like you. nonbinary looks like your family and friends and it looks like the strangers who you thoughtlessly call “he” or “she” because of their appearance.
really supporting nonbinary people means understanding that theres no visual tell – you wont recognise all of us as nonbinary on sight. you have to actually LISTEN to us. you have to BELIEVE us. and it means challenging your assumptions about gender, starting with the assumption that youre an ally to trans people while youre still doing puerile shit like gendering body parts and clothes.
NONBINARY LOOKS LIKE ANYBODY. ANY BODY CAN BE NONBINARY.
The fact that their is an article on a cis man going in women’s bathrooms with his daughter, and there is zero criticism of him, theres even people saying “this would not make me afraid, it’s fine because we have stalls in the womens”
And yet ur all still gonna cry about trans women. Drop the “but they are males” shit when u will happily welcome men in.
These people like “bring in the little boys too! Mens toilets are gross!”
Litterally ONE person is like “hey I’m also cool with trans people in the loos” I will MURDER the cis.
Have you seen the article written by a terf about how she brings her husband in with her to “protect” her?
She claimed that trans women existing and having to pee made her husband need to babysit her for her safety then got mad when people pointed out she’s bringing a man in, specifically, to be violent to other people
as much as i appreciate the increased usage of they/them pronouns as a non binary person that uses those pronouns, y’all need to also understand that using they/them on someone who does not use they/them is still misgendering
Using they/them for someone whose gender/pronouns you’re unsure of: good; doesn’t make assumptions; more concise and inclusive than the dreaded “he or she.” not misgendering
Using they/them for someone who has already told you their gender/pronouns (and doesn’t use they/them): not good; ignores their implicit/explicit wishes; often used as an ‘out’ by closet transphobes to avoid referring to a binary trans person with their preferred pronouns while still appearing ‘woke.’ this is misgendering
ifesbob 