You haven’t done anything wrong if someone catches feelings for you and you can’t reciprocate. You never owe someone else romantic feelings.
Tag: relationships
ladies, if you laugh at or ridicule your bf/husband/man because he cried and was vulnerable by sharing his emotions with you, then maybe you’re not emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship.
The “friend zone” and unrequited love are not the same thing. Unrequited love is, “I love you, you don’t love me in that same way, I am sad about that.” The “friend zone” is, “I love you, you don’t love me in that same way, you have therefore wronged me.”
Unrequited love is, “My unilateral crush is my problem.” The “friend zone” is, “My unilateral crush is your problem.”
Again for the ones in the back
Louder.
Unrequited Love is sad. The friendzone is creepy.
It costs $0.00 to be loyal to your girlfriend
If you’re in a relationship, and you are afraid to tell your friends about something that your partner did to you because you are afraid they will think badly of your partner, that’s a red flag.
anyway, abusive women are just as bad as abusive men.
idk ive been thinking a lot lately about this idea of whether or not you can in good conscience get in a relationship with someone while you are healing from or dealing with significant trauma, mental illness, etc. and i think that it’s ridiculous to expect people who have difficult lives and experiences or basically chronic mental illnesses to lead lives of solitude because what they’re dealing with isn’t something that should be “put on someone else”. those of us who deal with stuff like this all the time and continue to have mental health issues can be in healthy relationships with others if we acknowledge what we’re going through and do our best to have open communication, not become codependent on our partners, and try our best to be actively healing at all times. this might be an unpopular opinion but i just don’t think that people who are healing from something should have to avoid getting into romantic relationships because honestly some healing is lifelong. some stuff you never fully recover from. and people who have trauma/mental illness like this are not undeserving of love. it’s also a bit ridiculous to assume that anyone who is dealing with something will automatically treat their significant other like shit because they’re unable to deal with their own trauma. that’s simply not true. we can be in healthy, loving relationships and friendships despite our trauma—we just have to work a little harder than everyone else sometimes and that’s okay. it doesn’t make you a bad person to want to be with someone you love. it’s possible to acknowledge and work on your problems while in a healthy, loving relationship, and i want that for all of us. you are deserving of love no matter what you’ve been through.
Relationships are scary and complicated ONLY when you start thinking of your partner as some kind of adversary.
You know how to stop being scared of relationships? Remember that it’s got a goddamn buddy system *built in*. That’s all a relationship IS: “Let’s approach life with the buddy system.”
Check on your buddy. Make sure your buddy doesn’t forget their lunch box on the schoolbus. Hold hands with your buddy so you don’t get lost. If your buddy wants to look at the monkey cage, look at the goddamn monkey cage with them. If you are the one looking at the monkey cage, ask your buddy what they want to do next, and when they want to feed the giraffe, help them find a quarter for the little food dispenser. Be a good buddy, and if your buddy isn’t a good one too, tell the teacher and ask for a new one.
This isn’t fucking rocket science, people.
I have reblogged this before. I will reblog it again. And it’s not just romantic relationships: it’s family members and friends as well.
This kind of woke my ass up because of the amount of times I’ve had a buddy who didn’t check on me, didn’t want me to check on them, but didn’t want me to leave.
when you see something that reminds you of a partner/loved one and you send them a link to it that’s a form of gift-giving (preserving the meaning and thoughtfulness behind “i saw this and i thought you would like it”) without costing money, and i think that’s a cool thing to talk about re: love in the digital age that’s not “millennials look at their phones too much and it’s destroying relationships”
ifesbob 