sorta related but i dont like that tumblr has made “unhealthy relationship” mean “one person is an abuser and the other is a victim”
unhealthy relationship means just that. a relationship that is unhealthy. whether because a party is uninterested, both parties bring out the worst in eachother, theres just no more spark, etc
just stop using “unhealthy relationship” as if its perfectly synonymous with “abusive relationship”
abusive relationships are DEFINITELY unhealthy relationships but not all unhealthy relationships are abusive, ya dig?
Important post.
Not everyone you don’t get along with is an abuser.
“If youre not hiding anything youll let me look through this” is a gross manipulation tactic
You have every right to keep your stuff private, it is natural to not want people, no matter how close they are, going through your phone/papers/conversations/pictures.
Dont let them trick you into feeling bad because youre a human who wants privacy.
Plus, the people you contact deserve the right to keep conversations that you have together private
Also the reasons someone would want to look through your stuff aren’t healthy either and never stem from a positive characteristic in the person.
sorta related but i dont like that tumblr has made “unhealthy relationship” mean “one person is an abuser and the other is a victim”
unhealthy relationship means just that. a relationship that is unhealthy. whether because a party is uninterested, both parties bring out the worst in eachother, theres just no more spark, etc
just stop using “unhealthy relationship” as if its perfectly synonymous with “abusive relationship”
abusive relationships are DEFINITELY unhealthy relationships but not all unhealthy relationships are abusive, ya dig?
Important post.
Not everyone you don’t get along with is an abuser.
sorta related but i dont like that tumblr has made “unhealthy relationship” mean “one person is an abuser and the other is a victim”
unhealthy relationship means just that. a relationship that is unhealthy. whether because a party is uninterested, both parties bring out the worst in eachother, theres just no more spark, etc
just stop using “unhealthy relationship” as if its perfectly synonymous with “abusive relationship”
abusive relationships are DEFINITELY unhealthy relationships but not all unhealthy relationships are abusive, ya dig?
Important post.
Not everyone you don’t get along with is an abuser.
Can we please be the generation that stops putting up with the family child molester? The grown uncle who dates teenage girls, the husband who makes uncomfortable comments about young women’s clothing, or the cousin who raises red flags with their behavior towards children but no one wants to talk about all need to go. Children, especially young women, are expected to “keep the family together” by not making a fuss over incredibly traumatic behavior. Children don’t deserve to suffer trauma for adults’ feelings of togetherness. They’re more worthy of protection than predators. A healthy family is not built on the backs of abuse survivors expected to live their lives in silence without justice, support, or protection.
Can we please be the generation that stops putting up with the family child molester? The grown uncle who dates teenage girls, the husband who makes uncomfortable comments about young women’s clothing, or the cousin who raises red flags with their behavior towards children but no one wants to talk about all need to go. Children, especially young women, are expected to “keep the family together” by not making a fuss over incredibly traumatic behavior. Children don’t deserve to suffer trauma for adults’ feelings of togetherness. They’re more worthy of protection than predators. A healthy family is not built on the backs of abuse survivors expected to live their lives in silence without justice, support, or protection.
The reason why saying “straight culture™” or “this is the most heterosexual thing i’ve ever seen” when it comes to toxic or abusive relationships isn’t good is because
1. It normalizes the idea that relationships between a man and a woman are inherently toxic and abusive or that it’s okay for relationships between a man and a woman to be toxic and abusive and
2. it erases the truth that abuse happens just as often in homosexual relationships as it does in heterosexual relations.
Both those things lead to people not recognizing abuse or staying in abusive relationships out of the notion that what is happening is acceptable. So stop it. Abuse and toxicity are not “Straight culture”. They’re filthy things that can happen to anyone.
The reason why saying “straight culture™” or “this is the most heterosexual thing i’ve ever seen” when it comes to toxic or abusive relationships isn’t good is because
1. It normalizes the idea that relationships between a man and a woman are inherently toxic and abusive or that it’s okay for relationships between a man and a woman to be toxic and abusive and
2. it erases the truth that abuse happens just as often in homosexual relationships as it does in heterosexual relations.
Both those things lead to people not recognizing abuse or staying in abusive relationships out of the notion that what is happening is acceptable. So stop it. Abuse and toxicity are not “Straight culture”. They’re filthy things that can happen to anyone.
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