Tag: relationships

writingsforwinter:

If you lose interest in someone, tell them. 

If you’re not looking for a relationship, tell the person you’re seeing.

If you’re thinking of ghosting someone, tell them.

If you can’t handle meeting up with someone after all, tell them.

If you’re terrible at responding to messages, tell people.

If you prefer talking in person to texting, tell people. 

If you’re seeing several people at the same time, tell them.

If you’re looking for sex rather than dating, tell the person you’re seeing.

It is not difficult to be a decent and honest, open, communicative human being. Respect those whom you interact with and have relationships with by telling the truth instead of leading them on or being deceitful.

storyinmypocket:

Adulting tip: before you move in with someone, sit down and have a discussion about what a clean living space looks like. Doing this would have saved me so much aggravation in my life.

“But Jaqui,” I hear you asking, “why should we have to talk about it? Clean’s clean, right?” No, it’s not. And thinking cleanliness is a self-evident concept is a great way for screaming fights to happen down the line.

Here’s an example: to my mom, clean means that all the things in the space are not actively dirty, and are free of crumbs and food stains and the like. It doesn’t matter to her where you put your shit, so long as no one has to worry about bugs or stains or diseases. To my once-stepfather, clean meant that everything had a place where it belonged, and things were neat and organized, and there was no visible clutter. He gave less of a shit about crumbs under the microwave than he did about random papers on the coffee table. So she could spend all day working to make sure you could eat off every surface in the kitchen, and he would come home and be upset because she’d spent all that time and as far as he could tell, nothing was clean. Meanwhile, his obsessive organization drove my mom batshit because he would blithely organize away things that weren’t clean by her standards. Needless to say, that relationship did not end well.

So yeah. Have the talk, and figure out what your “augh, this is unlivable, we need to clean!” points are. You may not always be able to get a shared living space exactly as clean as you want it, but if you figure out what everyone needs to feel like they have a reasonably clean space, you’re much more likely to correctly conclude that, when someone makes an offhand comment about the mess getting to them, you’ll know they mean the dishes in the sink are bothering them, and that they don’t give a shit about the dust on the bookshelves, and can act accordingly.

hello-kitty-senpai:

mojave-red:

absorbednebula:

genghis-khanye:

eltigrechico:

mozzafiato-vita:

traditionallifetraditionalwife:

eltigrechico:

How emotionally crippled and selfish is this lady that her response to a lacking sex life isn’t to talk to her partner but to just dive right into “how do i get some side dick?”

Mainstream news needs to be abolished…scum

This lady is disgusting and the “advice” is trash.

A couple of years ago, I was diagnosed with a disease that is not immediately life-threatening but causes me significant pain and fatigue. He has had to take over a lot of the household duties so I can continue to work full time. He is very supportive and I could not ask for a better husband, except … our sex life is nonexistent now. He says he is afraid to hurt me.

So, this poor guy supports her through her illness and now she’s ready to cheat on him because she’s desperate for sex. Sickening. 

I was finally able to get passed the subscription harassing ads and wow. The article is so fucked. The woman has no moral conundrum about cheating, her entire attitude seems to be “How long can I sit around waiting for my husband to solve everything before I’m good to fuck this guy from work?”

And the advice! The fucking “advice” columnist tells her that while she should talk to him, seek couples therapy, see things from his view, etc, she says “in the end, your work-friend solution might turn out to be the best one.”

WTF

in what world is cheating on your husband with a guy from work a good way to fix any relationship problem? You’re just layering on way more and bigger problems

I stg I could write a fucking book length response to this thing, every sentence is so upsetting

THROW THE WHOLE WIFE AWAY

women be shopping

I don’t like the increasing popularity of cheating being ok. Why the fuck would you swear your life to someone only to betray them?

Because people are fucking retarded. I have a zero tolerance policy on cheating. I was with a woman for two years, proposed to her and then learned she had cheated on me a year before. I broke it off. I’d never cheat on someone, I would expect the same respect from my partner. 

“He completely takes care of everything, leaving him exhausted, and he’s afraid to hurt me because of my condition, but I want dick so it’s cool if i cheat right?”
disloyal ass

mjalti:

enjoy the short term!!! sometimes ur not gonna be friends for 46 years and that’s ok, just enjoy the drive!!! some people aren’t gonna have a significant impact in ur life but not every show is a TedTalk, sometimes u needs some Real Housewives!!’ loosen up, the universe is rearing to explode and if that bix isn’t permanent herself, you’ve got nothing to lose! forever is an illusion