You never deserve abuse because you’re too needy or clingy
You never deserve abuse because you “let it happen” or “didn’t fight back” or “didn’t stand up for yourself”
You never deserve abuse because you “let it get this far” or you “stayed this long”
You never deserve abuse because your abuser is your mother or father, sister or brother, other family member, your boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancée, husband, or wife
You never deserve abuse because you have a particular mental or physical illness
You never deserve abuse because you’re “too emotional”
You never deserve abuse because you were “asking for it”
You never deserve abuse even though you’ve made mistakes, or said something wrong, or haven’t understood something, or can’t remember something
You never deserve abuse for being “too much” or “not good enough”
You never deserve abuse for having off days or being vulnerable sometimes
You never deserve abuse for asking for help
You never deserve abuse, no matter how many times and how many ways your abuser justifies it or makes excuses for it.
Seeing this exchange on Reddit was so sad. Men and boys need love and affection as much as women and girls.
Fuck, this reminds me of this good post I saw on I believe Twitter. Can’t find it and even so I’d rather not repost it if it can be helped but it was basically some dude crawling into bed w/ his girlfriend/wife and he was clearly upset and she offers him sex to make him feel better but he declines so instead she cuddles him and he starts crying and says thank you. Super cute and sweet.
Is it this?
Yeah! That’s the one. Thanks.
That post reminds me of this one I saw on Reddit:
Kill the idea that men don’t want physical affection 2KForever.
🥺🥺🥺
If you kiss a man’s hand, you’ll literally explode their brain
Y’all, for the love of god, give your mans affection
a man: i’ll never let you leave this relationship even when you’re hurt and want to escape, you stupid slut
alt girls on tiktok: omg this is so hot 😳 anyone else love toxic guys?
in all seriousness, if you do feel compelled to get in toxic relationships due to trauma it’s NOT your fault–I have this issue–but if you romanticize it online to a bunch of kids you’re only going to create more abuse victims.
I’m not saying mental illness can’t make socializing a struggle but guess what? If you keep waiting for your friends to come to you, then your friends will end up feeling neglected and eventually they’ll move on to people who can meet their efforts halfway – and they’re not in the wrong for doing so. So you gotta fight the instinct to self-isolate no matter how insecure you are feeling. Your friends likely need reassurance sometimes too.
i am FULLY against the sentiment that we don’t owe anybody anything. we owe people common decency. we owe people respect if it has been given to us. we owe people apologies & explanations when we hurt them. i don’t care.
Hey you, please take care of yourself. Cancel plans if you are not feeling well. Just write it to people how it is: “I’m not feeling well, I can’t go. I’m sorry I was really looking forward to X, can we find another day”.
Taking care of yourself is so important, and your friends would want you to take care of yourself too. Otherwise they are not true friends. And with a message like that, your friend(s) also feels valued. 🌸
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