real talk my mom never invaded my privacy, always knocked and waited for my “come in” instead of barging into my room, never tried to read my texts or journals or notes, and I always came to her with sensitive subjects; to the point of telling her I lost my virginity the /day/ I lost my virginity
what I’m saying is: respect your kids’ privacy and they will come to you with shit you’re worried about them doing
take it from someone raised the opposite; not respecting your kid’s privacy and rooting thru all of their shit, making them feel paranoid etc, will just turn them into a very good liar who withholds everything/makes up convincing stories and is really good at hiding things from you right under your nose.
To be honest.. if more children were shown from birth that they are loved, cared for, and listened no matter their gender we might not have some of the problems we have now.
best thing i learned working with and learning about kids: when they do shit like this, especially to something they themselves use and enjoy, leave it there for as long as possible. let them return to the fun thing over and over again so that it sinks in that the thing they did was wrong, they ruined something, and now they can’t have fun because of it and they should never do it again. it teaches them consequence of action and cautiousness.
i did this with a 3-year-old kid i babysat who filled his playstation with peanut butter before i got there, just every time he went back to it and asked why it’s not working, i opened it and pointed to the peanut butter stains and said “you did that” and he says “yeah”, “will it work like that?” “…no”, and when he got it and promised to never put anything but games into a game machine again, his parents bought another and he kept his promise. it works, even at that age.
this was a long and unnecessary rant but so many times i’ve seen parents IMMEDIATELY replace their kids’ toys/electronics that they destroy over and over again and i’m just like NO THEY’RE NOT LEARNING ANYTHING THAT WAY
they also don’t learn from being thrown into fires
I just heard of this from my brother, whose children are terrified of it. It’s so grotesque.
So essentially, this “Momo Challenge” made its way onto YouTube Kids videos (much like the self harm one you might’ve seen going around). In the same manner, it comes up about halfway through a video, when parents are more than likely not paying attention, and tells the kid they can’t tell anyone about the challenges or their friends/family/themselves will be killed or seriously hurt. Then it gets into the challenges.
They start out simple. Break a toy, make a mess of your room, etc. But then they gwt more and more disturbing. Things like self harm and suicide make their way into the challenges, once the kids have become invested.
And I need to stress this: they aren’t allowed to mention this to anyone under threat of harm or death to the people they love.
My niece burst into tears when my brother asked. My nephew, who’s 13, was scared out of his mind and begged my brother to drop it, because he can’t talk about it.
My brother is cutting his kids off from YouTube, and if you have children, I strongly suggest you do the same. YouTube Kids is no longer safe. Period.
Even if you don’t have kids, please, by god, reblog and share. People are ending their lives. They’re scared senseless. YouTube needs to own up and do something, and until then we need to protect the children.
What. The. Fuck. Why would someone do this?
Why are they allowed to?
People killed people for sport way back when so this is not surprising, but what it is, is very fucked up.
The real question is, why are we letting them get away with it
YouTube is poorly run, and I doubt YouTube Kids even knows these clips are being encoded into their videos.
It’s a disgustingly lazy error, basically.
Like the post I reblogged a few days ago said, watch what your kids are watching. There is plenty of kid friendly stuff on youtube, but you can’t trust your kid to stay on that on their own.
Youtube Kids is not safe and could never possibly be considered safe unless it was exclusively curated by actual people and not an algorithm, even if Youtube didn’t have a reputation for being bad in that regard. The only way to make sure what your kids are watching is safe is 1. You’ve watched it yourself and you know that or 2. Kid-safe TV shows/movies.
I don’t want to say it’s on you because it’s not really but you really should be supervising your kids. Also your kids shouldn’t be keeping secrets like that from you, you should talk to them about that kind of thing anyway.
Children/teens aren’t allowed to be sad or in a bad mood because they can get yelled at for it and ridiculed and told to ‘change your attitude or I will for you’, while adults who are sad or in a bad mood, are allowed to yell at and take their frustration out on the kids. Adult privilege huh?
And when the adult is in a bad mood, it’s the kids job to step on eggshells in order to keep them from not exploding, and when they do, it’s on them.
And when the child is in the bad mood, it’s their job to try to hide it, and when they break apart trying to, it’s on them.
What extra sucks about this is that adults literally have more experience, context, perspective, and brain development to help them manage emotions. Adults who do this are shit. We are the adults, we should not be expecting kids who are still developing and learning about the world and trying to figure out their place in it to be the ones who are emotionally mature.
People who treat adulthood like a power trip are honestly shit and should not have authority over kids.
Truth being told, you shouldn’t let your kids on the internet unsupervised.
Like, if you have a lil kiddo and you think Youtube Kids or smh is safe, it isnt.
The reason why you can let your kids watching something like Cartoon Network is cuz, all those shows have been checked by professionals to get a PG and to see if they’re kid appropriate.
Youtube Kids is literally made by randos on the internet, much of them have bad intentions, YouTube doesn’t check, their algorithm sucks, and many pages are ran by that, algorithms.
Please, take good care of what your kiddos are watching.
I absolutely hate how infantilized everyone is now like it’s not funny that you don’t know how to boil water you dumb bitch
Teach your children household duties. Cooking, cleaning, gardening etc are very important skills.
Had to show my roommate how to use our stove the other day. Took some convincing for her to believe that no, you don’t put anything between the stove element and the pan.
First job I ever got, the boss was ecstatic to learn that I can pick up a knife and chop up fruit unsupervised because apparently that was how low the bar had been set.
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