not to hate ableism and ignorance on main but if ur child tells u that they dont understand smth and didnt think to do smth thats “"common sense”“ and ur reaction is ‘i shouldnt HAVE to tell u to do that’ or ‘but u should KNOW this’ instead of trying to clarify what u expect and being patient w them then please for the love of god do some fucking research on ur kids adhd/autism or literally any mental illness/disorder before making them spend 18 yrs of their life convincing themselves that theyre just an annoyance to everyone for not understanding things like others do
what my parents told me: you can do anything if you set your mind to it
what I wish my parents had told me: sometimes you will fail, and it will be scary and it will suck, but you will probably not die
I would also have appreciated: the fact that you can do something if you try very, very hard, does not actually obligate you to spend your life putting forth maximum effort to achieve it. It is okay to not be 1000% driven by life-consuming ambition and instead be satisfied with something less difficult.
I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who has trouble remembering developmental milestones. I put these together, but can’t take credit for any of the photography. Hope someone finds them helpful!
This is very useful to me i have absolutely no gauge for how old children are and what they can typically do at what ages
I’ve been on Tumblr too long I was definitely expecting this to turn into some existentialist meme
I don’t think Fortnite is to blame for kids nowadays not reading…
That’s the joke. It’s the authoritarian overbearing parent.
He was being sarcastic lol
Reminded me of these
That violin one hit close to home.
I remember doing homework once, asked my grandmother if she was proud of me. “Do some thing for me to be proud of.” That hurt.
That comic up there – I witnessed almost that exact scenario. Teacher wanted the kids to all pick books. One kid spots something on the shelf and gets visibly excited. Pulls it out and starts reading. Teacher sees it, snatches it off him and tells him that this is a book for 8 year olds (the kid was 15ish) and tells him to get a book more appropriate for his age. Kid slouches around the shelves for about 10 minutes, finally picks up a book at random and sits in his chair tucking the edges of each page into the binding to make that looped-page look. He didn’t read a word. He sat there and did this to his book for the remainder of the reading session:
He had been genuinely excited about the 8 year old book he’d picked up. It was a new one in a series he used to read as a younger kid. He’d been actively sitting and reading, and then he was embarrassed in front of his classmates, told off for reading a kids book, and voila. He lost all enthusiasm for reading anything else that day.
What’s worse? That kid had been hit by a car like a year and a half earlier. Severe brain trauma. Had to re-learn a lot of basic things, like how to speak and how to read.
An 8 year old book would have been perfect for him. Easy enough to read that it would have helped rebuild his confidence in his own reading ability. A book meant for 15/16 years olds? A lot harder to read than a book for 8 year olds. Especially if you’re recovering from a relatively recent brain injury.
And yeah, the teacher knew all about his brain injury, and the recovery. He just seemed go be of the opinion that the kid was 15, so he should be reading books for 15 year olds, irrespective of brain injury.
Reading this thread I’m reminded of Daniel Pennae’s The Rights of the Reader, which can be found in a lot of bookshops and school libraries:
The child speaking at the bottom in Quentin Blake’s distinctive spiky handwriting is saying ‘10 rights, 1 warning: Don’t make fun of people who don’t read – or they never will’
It’s funny how parents will over shelter their kids and never let them do anything or go anywhere and then immediately expect them to be a normal functioning adult at 18
I’ve seen someone disagree with “And your kid is not your best friend.“ and there’s something that needs to be clarified here.
If a parent unloads their emotional baggage to their child and expects that child to carry them like another adult, that’s where a line should be drawn. A child or a teenager would feel flattered and would try to do their best. But in the long run, it’s going to exhaust them when the parent should be the one taking care of them emotionally too (and not just physically).
The parent would also develop a codependent relationship with their child, expecting them to drop everything to take care of their needs. When their kid, even upon growing, would need to be their own person someday.
That parent needs to have an adult friend of their own.
You can be your child’s best friend, but your child should not be your best friend.
You, as the parent, are an adult capable of dealing with your child’s emotional needs. Your child, as a child, is not equipped to deal with your adult emotional needs. That’s the difference.
Full offence but parents of autistic/ND kids need to stop literally insulting them to their faces
Context:
My 5 year old autistic brother went on a 3 day trip with my parents which was likely a stressful experience for him even tho he had a lot of fun!
When he arrived home he ran inside, gave me a hug for a few minutes, sat down to play with some number blocks (his current special interest) this was really great bc he was using a good coping strategy to de-stress rather than having a meltdown
I sat down beside him quietly and was talking to him about the blocks and he was enthusiastically engaging in conversation with me when my dad decided to comment on how “you won’t get any meaningful conversation out of him”
And it really makes me angry that this type of attitude is so common in parents of autistic kids
Growing up with your identity constantly under fire leaves you with very low self esteem so please think about what you say in front of your kids
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