parents that try to guilt trip their kids for feeding them and providing a roof over their heads are disgusting like that is ur responsibility as their parent, as someone that chose to raise them, that’s part of the damn job description and in no way do ur kids owe u for that, not even a single bit
Media that makes it okay for parents to say how much they find their kids annoying/draining/life ruiners are horrible bc they teach children they’re a burden to those around them, and it sanctions parents’ guilting their children and literally calling them financial burdens to their face
Whether or not it is a joke, I’ve gone onto the channel and there are multiple videos similar to this, which makes me think they’re fake.
Doesn’t matter.
These videos enforce the idea to parents that yes, the answer to stop your child becoming obsessed with games is to DESTROY them.
No. This is not funny. It is things like this that cause events such as the father who SHOT his daughter’s laptop to bits to occur. These jokes enforce the attitude that people are ‘wrong’ for loving games.
For wanting to play games.
For some people (including myself), games are a serious escape from horrid realities. The only escape some people can get. The idea that this man (boy?) is wrong for being so upset is disgusting to me?
This is horrific. This is abuse. This is wrong.
This is a sure fire way to get your kids to hate you.
do people not understand how much video games cost?
Video games are a multi-billion dollar business. Some people are good at it. Very good. Do not squander your child’s talents, help them realize them and strengthen them. There are other ways to get your child outside without destroying their games and everything they work for. This won’t solve anything; this will only set them back further.
do this to your childs anything and they will automatically hate you/not trust you
It doesn’t matter what it is
It doesn’t matter if its their video games or if its their smoking pipe
If you just destroy it/throw it away, you are giving no explanation as to why it’s bad/you don’t want them to have it
This can actually psychologically mess a kid up because you teach them that if someone doesn’t like something, they should destroy it
That can lead to some serious problems with socializing with others and other things
dont do that to people
dont
I had a notebook I used to write in all the time. I did that thing that Margo did in Paper Towns where she criss crossed her writing, but I did it so I’d have enough room to write everything. I took it everywhere wtih me and wouldn’t let my parents even start the car unless I had in in my lap. My dad got really annoyed by this and said I needed to throw the notebook away, what was written in it wasn’t important anyway (it was to me, very much so). So one day he took and ran it through the paper shredder. Ever since I’ve had an intense fear of losing my notebooks and currently have a colletion of 53 blank notebooks and 16 that have been written in because I’ve started hoarding them. Long story short, don’t fucking do this to your kids. You think it’s harmless and some people even think it’s clever, but you’re really just an asshole and are causing actual psychological problems for your children.
I have a plush rabbit that I’ve had since Easter of the year I was born (I was about 2 months old when I got it). It quickly became a comfort thing for me and I used to go everywhere with it as a child. When my mum and dad split up was when I became kind of dependent on having it around. If ever I did anything wrong mum always threatened to take it away from me, which obviously caused my 6-year-old self to kick and scream and cry because I needed it. One day I lost it for 6 or 7 months (turns out it was in my room the whole time but shh it was very well hidden & neither myself or my mum know how it got there) That was the point that my mum realised she couldn’t threaten to take it away because holy shit I changed so much in those months.
Seriously, if your child is dependent on something, or takes great comfort in having it around DO NOT TAKE IT FROM THEM. It does not matter how old your child is, what their comfort item is, if it’s a video games console – don’t take it from them. If it’s their phone – don’t take it from them. If they’re 18 and still sleep with a teddybear – don’t take it from them.
This also goes for if your child is self-harming. If they have a blade in their bedroom and you find it DO NOT THROW IT OUT. Talk to them about it, be as supportive as you can, but do not think “oh well if I get rid of it they’ll be fine”. It can be seriously distressing and also lead to them becoming creative with what they use.
I was given my very first computer when I was about 13 on Christmas. I was so excited, because I’d always wanted to have a computer to myself to play PC games and write and use the internet. Eventually, however, after a year of having the computer, my dad started threatening to take it away/smash it/cut off my internet access because according to him, I was “addicted”. To this day, he STILL DOES THIS. I no longer have that desktop computer anymore, as I invested in a laptop with my own money. Does that stop him from basically claiming the laptop as his property to do what he wants with and threatening to smash it on me so that I would “socialize” more? Nope.
No wonder I have a lot of anxiety problems, folks.
Please do not do this to your children. You can and will create serious problems.
some parents think that because they are the adult, they can do whatever they want to their kids. they are the ruler. i am big, and you are small. i can do whatever i want to you, and you can’t say anything. and if you say anything against it, you are just another teenager who is addicted to “internet land” and you’ll understand how to dominate someone entirely once you get older. plus as someone who plays games, that would destroy my life if my parents did that. luckily i have parents who have supported me in life and wouldn’t do something like that. but damn, you could make a kid kill themselves over destroying their games. it’s not cute or funny, though parents posting it to their facebook page and saying “lol-watch this!! kid deserved it” probably think so. but they are right!! teenagers and young adults know nothing. parents can never be flawed. never question authority. your parents are always right.
“Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them…or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.”
Holy SHIT
WELL THEN
Yep.
They actually tested me for a learning disability in high school because I was consistently failing math.
They discovered that I actually scored in the 80th percentile in that sort of learning.
Problem was, in every other subject, I was in the 99.8th percentile.
I had never learned how to study because I never needed to—and then, when something proved to be even the slightest bit challenging, my brain went
“LOL nope this is impossible abort”
Meanwhile, this entire time I’m scraping by in subjects like English. The assignments I did turn in, I’d score top marks—but I’d avoid turning in projects I didn’t think were “good” enough.
Essentially, my brain had two settings: “100%” or “0%”.
This sort of Baby Genius shit makes kids and adolescents neurotic and self-destructive.
We learned about this in Child Development. And we learned to reward hard work and not good job. Like don’t say to a child, “oh you are so smart.” Say “Oh did worked so hard.”
Be proud of the child, not the achievement.
Be proud of the child, not the achievement.
Decades of research have been done on this by Dr. Carol Dweck. When the emphasis is placed on effort (a factor people can control) rather than talent (an innate skill), it’s a lot easier to see mistakes as a learning opportunity rather than something you just won’t ever be good at. And kids who were encouraged by effort were also more willing to take on more challenging work and considered it a lot more fun, while the kids who were praised for their intelligence were reluctant to put themselves in a situation where they might lose that identifier as a “smart kid” by making mistakes, so they preferred to do work they were confident they could master. Also, the kids praised for effort wanted to compare their results to kids who got higher scores, to see where they made their mistakes, while those praised for intelligence wanted to compare their results to kids who scored lower, to reassure themselves.
Not only does this set up “smart” students for a lot of trouble when they enter college and start being regularly challenged, the effects last long beyond that. It can be very hard for the “you’re so smart!” kids to unlearn as they become adults and struggle with even common adult things, and are afraid to ask for help because of that lesson they learned from misguided praise that they are supposed to be smart and supposed to know the answers.
…Honestly +1 here. It’s very well researched and documented and yeah. Making the emphasis on “You succeed and we are proud of you b/c you are SMART as an intrinsic quality!” makes failure/setbacks/difficulty -TERRIFYING- b/c if you’re “smart” it doesn’t happen and if you fail that means you’re not smart and that’s what everyone’s drilled into you as your main point of worth.
And the rates of anxiety disorders among “gifted student” kids are kinda horrifying.
This is why “you’re so smart” means absolutely nothing to me any more. It’s used as punishment as often as it’s used as praise.
As the song on
ABC KID TV says “When you think something you want, what’s
the magic word?” Please. “When you get something you need, what’s the
magic word?” Thank you.
If you want
to talk to somebody and they are busy, you say Excuse me.
If two
people are talking, don’t interrupt them otherwise it’s important.
If you want
to do something, ask permission.
When your family
asks you, you answer them politely with “po” or “opo”.
When you
want to enter a close door, don’t forget to knock first and wait for response.
Always appreciate
all the things you receive and don’t forget to say thank you.
Never bully
anyone. Always remember that each person deserves respect.
Say sorry
if you did something wrong.
When you’re
going to cough or sneeze, always cover your mouth.
When someone
helps you, always say thank you.
Don’t talk
when you mouth is full.
If you’re having a hard time doing on something, don’t hesitate to ask for help.
Agressive reminder to all parents that if your child is really struggling with/is unable to do basic everyday things like going to school , socializing or helping out at home your first assumption should be that there might be something wrong mentally or physically, not that they’re bad, lazy people who aren’t trying their hardest.
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