Tag: parenting

tybalt-you-saucy-boi:

witchin-bitchin-twopointoh:

floralvixen:

witchin-bitchin-twopointoh:

floralvixen:

siderealsandman:

darthmama:

siawrites:

3000-sleepy-pugs:

gengarnet:

shugarskull:

hesgreatness:

shugarskull:

umbriss:

Wow that’s some bullshit?

How to be a shitty parent

how is this shitty parenting if i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there. Shit my mom would have been out looking for me.

Right? How is this shitty at all?? If i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there or else you aren’t allowed in the home. I care about my kids safety so much I’ll endanger them when they dont listen to me.

i do not have the energy to explain why this is a shitty thing to do but yeah it’s shit

I do! If you’re gonna be a vindictive little shit to your kids, you shouldn’t be having them. Having abusive parents like the ones up here fucked up my perception of love and affection. 

I got locked out of the house all the time just like this poor kid. Do you know how fucking cold it gets at night? NO because you’re cushy and comfortable behind those decorated glass doors! I slept in 30

°F weather. I was on the swim team so I had to wake up and run with the team at 5 am then go to class. I’d wake up with frozen hair and bugs crawling on me. I’d start crying and it would rain fucking cold water. I had no friends in the neighborhood to go to. I’m still somewhat scared of the dark. 

There’s wild animals and predatory strangers and shit out there. You’re gonna put your fucking CHILD in that situation and FAIL to be their guardian at one of the most important times of day just because they made it home late? Kids make fucking mistakes, and if you aren’t prepared for that, you shouldn’t even have pets. You’re not a caretaker, you’re a lazy abusive perfectionist snot. I’d kick your ass if you were my neighbor and I saw you pulling this shit! No joke!

My roommate talks all the time about how if her kids mess around she’d smack them around, but she and a LOT of other people do not understand that punishments like those are abuse. They fuck your kid up for life.

If you leave a kid out in the cold they’re more likely to get into more trouble/danger to keep warm anyway. Who’s gonna take your kid into their home? Do you even give a shit what happens to them? No because you wanted to play god and get back at someone who is still developing. Be a fucking adult.

Your kid is not  a robot. It’s so shitty these parents have done this kind of stuff before and have NOT given the kid a blanket. 

Neglect is the chronic inattention or omission on the part of the care giver to provide for the basic emotional and/or physical needs of the child, including food, clothing, nutrition, adequate supervision, health, hygiene, safety, medical and psychological care and education. Emotionally neglected children do not receive the necessary psychological nurturance to foster their own growth and development. The consequences of neglect can be very serious, particularly for young children. The child who does not receive adequate emotional, cognitive and physical stimulation, physical care and nutrition may experience lags in development. These lags in development may be irreversible.

SOME FORMS OF ABUSE & NEGLECT:

*Rejection, ignorance and isolation

*A lack of shelter

*Emotional neglect or lack of supervision

*Deliberate locking children out of the house

So if you think pulling this childish bullshit is ok, I will break into your house and steal whatever funds it takes to care for your child. I’ll fight you in the morning because you’re a garbage human being.

Stop teaching your damn kid they’re worthless. YOU made them.

 Stop being your child’s enemy, start being their actual fucking caretaker.

Just so y’all know… in the state of Texas, this is grounds for me to call CPS on your ass.  

And I will, too.

Same in Illinois and I fucking will.  

TBH all the people coming out in support of locking kids outside for missing curfew need to just not have kids

Boo fucking hoo.

Just follow the damn rules of your house then.

If your response to people talking about the serious physical and psychological damage you can cause to a DEVELOPING HUMAN BEING by LOCKING THEM OUTSIDE is “oh boo hoo should have followed the rules,” please do not have fucking children. Take their goddamn XBox away, lecture them, make them do chores, whatever! But

Don’t lock your child outside of your house for any “”“disciplinary”“” reason!

IT’S ABUSE!

You are free to raise your children that way.

I don’t have to though

No, you don’t understand. You’re not allowed to abandon your fucking children. It’s illegal to do this. It’s considered child abandonment.

…please tell me you don’t have children.

Are you gonna tell the police “boo fucking hoo” too and blame your child when an abductor or murderer or rapist comes by and suddenly your kid hasn’t been seen in 42 hours?

It’s literally goddamn illegal because you’re putting your child in danger. Curfews usually exist to keep kids from being out at times when it’s unsafe to do so (I’m sure there are other reasons but I can’t think of a single one). If you’re locking your kid out of the house, you’re negating the point of a curfew to begin with. No area is so safe that that is okay. Getting locked out of the house is not an appropriate way of handling a child missing curfew, regardless of the reason.

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cheshireinthemiddle:

chillsandfrills:

cheshireinthemiddle:

froody:

froody:

I’m not going to lie to you this is a contender for the funniest thing I’ve read in my life I literally thought this was first class absurdism I cannot believe OP posted this without a hint of sarcasm.

Let me explain to you why this metaphor is so fucking stupid and insensitive.

Most cases of child dumping are motivated by poverty or social pressures such as teen or single pregnancy. Individuals who dump their children almost always have no choice, almost always live with this intense weight over them for the rest of their life. Most of the time they do it under threat of disownment, stigma or homelessness, it’s a desperate decision caused by lack of contraceptives and sometimes even rape.

Rape is a choice that’s never justified. It’s never a life or death situation. Never in a man’s life is there a time where has the choice of raping someone or being disowned. Rapists chose to do that out of their own thirst for power. And you know what? Their buddies usually turn a blind eye.

Women have a reason to be terrified of men and unless you start accepting that and trying to change it, you can’t play the victim.

AND hypothetically if you want to stop child abandonment, start giving the community resources.

Let me explain to you why your analysis is incorrect.

1) the point of this post was to bring up that “teach men not to rape” is both generalizing men as the only rapists, and saying that they are ingerently criminal, in need of education to stop.

The counter was generalizing women as baby dumpers and stating that they need to be taught not to do that. Personally, i would have gone with “teach gay people not to molest children” or “teach black people not to murder” since they have a heavier impact.

2) Please please please stop trying to justify dumping your baby in the trash. You can give a child up for adoption, give custody to the father, have a family member or a friend take care of the child, or even leave your home. I grew up in a very poor neighborhood and teens whose parents strongly disaproved of them having children at that age eere dealt with. One of our very close friend’s mother movedout and with a friend when his mother was kicked out. We have been to poorer countries than the US where people have fewer options, and they still don’t go around justifying killing babies.

You cannot blame this on abortion, or contraceptives, or anything like that. It is dodging. The fact is that the woman three her baby away, not because she had to, but because she didnt want to face the opinions of others and work it out. Again, people in much much much worse situations manage to figure it out without essentially murdering someone.

3) You proved the point of the post by trying to justify fearing men for being men. If fearing black people for being black was okay, you would call it oppression. What you are showing is a sexist negative generalization. No one is dangerous or criminal for how they were born. Middle eastern people are not terrorists by default, black people arent murderers by default, gay people arent child molesters by default, and men arenot rapists by default. If you fear someone over such a generalization, you need to see a therapist. This isn’t mockery either, i have literally worked with people like you with actual therapists.

4) just like rape, murder, etc, people abandoning, hurting, or killing babies will never stop. The most we can do is make it illegal, and discourage everyone (male or female) from doing it.

I’m sure in some places you’re also allowed to drop off a baby at a firehouse or hospital no questions asked ? So instead of putting a baby in a dumpster to die, just drop it off somewhere where it’ll be found and taken care of ? Hell, even someone’s doorstep with a note asking them to do it for you is better than dropping one in a dumpster

^^^ there are dozens if not hundreds of much safer options than throwing a baby into a dumpster to die.

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unlimitedtrashworks:

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papi-chulo-bucky:

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the-owl-faced-girl:

I just want to yell so many good things about Britney Spears. Look at this parenting right here; rather than just twist their arms and tell the ‘smile or no McFlurry on the drive home’ she’s checking if her little boys are comfortable with the cameras and attention and if not, no problem baby boy, you go chill. And I have no problem with her staying to get more pictures, especially not when her other adorable kid wants to.  I mean, it’s her job up to a point. And we all know for a fact she probably watched the film with both the little bugs in her lap anyway. 

Considering what she dealt with and went through in front of paps….god, I love her. 

people can say what they want about her supposed meltdown, but frankly, that entire ‘episode’ always made perfect sense to me. she and i are of an age, and no matter how young or old i was, i always understood perfectly why she did it, and thought it was utter bullshit that a court could order what they did, instead of reprimanding the many, many people that felt so entitled to her that they drove her to extremes just to get 5 seconds of peace.

and now seeing this kind of thing? she has just gotten more awesome.

i remember reading how she got herself a tutor so she could help her kids with their homework. not got THEM a tutor, but she got herself one because she wanted to be the one helping them. that’s a+++ parenting right there ok?

This makes me so happy :’)

She got a court order because she was, by her own admission, raising her kids like her mother raised her. The judge sent her to therapy and parenting classes to work out all of the horrible stage-mother bullshit she had to live through. I mean, she thought it was normal to give her kids cough syrup and whiskey so they’d sleep, because it’s what her mother gave her to knock her out when she got rowdy.

I think Britney is a great role model for adult abused children and is living proof that you are not trapped in the cycle of abuse.

The purest 90s kid experience is being so happy for Britney Spears in her new life

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depresseddisneyprincess:

Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid stupid

Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid lazy

Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid ugly

Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid worthless

Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid idiot

Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid fat

Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids gender

Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids sexuality

Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids grades

Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids hobbies

Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids mental illness

Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kid or call them names

well-welly-well-belly-belle:

I love how baby boomers will talk about child-rearing like “I was beaten and repressed as a kid and turned out fine” and then like fifteen minutes later they’ll be like “A cashier at a clothing store wouldn’t take my expired coupon, this is a PERSONAL AFFRONT and you have to help me get them FIRED.”

Like. Are you sure you turned out fine, though? Cuz like. It seems like maybe you didn’t.

recoveringbanshee:

kerryrenaissance:

blackrebelz:

babyfacerae:

Why do parents wanna start being “good parents” when they start aging? Like…. the guilt setting in now, huh? You not tryna die with that on ya mental, huh?

lmao!

They want their kids and grandkids to feel obliged to take care of them when they can’t take care of themselves. They want someone to cry at their deathbed and at their funeral.

But if you want that, be a good parent when you first have kids, when they’re young. Don’t save it for your “second-chance family”, or for your children’s middle age.

Good endings usually require good beginnings (and a consistent middle).

I agree with this but I want to say… some people dont know how to be good parents at first. Some people get pregnant and have a kid they dont know what to do with so they wing it the best they can. Some people have no help and no support and theyre scared and lost and just doing what their parents did, which is often not great examples of parenting. Some people really dont know any better. Some people just dont have the resources and knowledge and dont know where to go for help. When you come from a family of alcoholic trailer trash, what could you possibly know about parenting?

Im not excusing bad parenting or shitty parents, but I wanna say, if you know you fucked up with your kids and you really want to make an effort to repair your relationship with your estranged children…

well, if you really genuinely want to fix your mistakes, by all means try. Your kids might not accept your apology. You have no right to demand forgiveness from them. And if they do forgive you, youll have to make a conscious effort to maintain that relationship. Youll have to keep being a good person. Youll have to not take your kids for granted ever again as long as you live.

I hate this idea that theres no way to fix a mistake. I hate the way that tumblr especially is so unforgiving. Some things are unforgivable, yes. But if you feel genuine remorse for your actions, if you really want to change and if you put in that effort when the time comes, i think you should be forgiven and given the chance to do better. How are people supposed to do better if you dont let them? Sometimes people need 20+ years to realize theyre wrong. It HAPPENS. Not everyone has the mindset to go out looking for answers. Not everyone has the courage to face their inner demons and battle their bullshit. Not everyone realizes they need to.

If you realize you were wrong and genuinely want to do better, please, find your kids and see if theyll let you have one more shot. They dont have to forgive you and you have no right to demand that from them. But everyone needs parents and nobody wants to die wishing theyd been able to tell their mom some truth or their dad that he hurt them.

If your kid wont forgive you, thats your fault. Know this in your heart. But if you refuse to change because they wouldnt forgive you, or if you say youll change and dont, youre being a bad person asking for forgiveness in equally bad faith.

shitabusiveparentssay:

blackrebelz:

babyfacerae:

Why do parents wanna start being “good parents” when they start aging? Like…. the guilt setting in now, huh? You not tryna die with that on ya mental, huh?

lmao!

in a large part it’s also the fact they can’t manipulate their child anymore as it grows up and becomes an adult

I think.. maybe some parents actually realize they were fucking up and want to make it right?

Plenty of parents probably do it for selfish reasons but you know, people change.

So yeah, they’re trying to fix it. At least some are perfectly fine admitting they fucked up but you know, they’re allowed to want to fix it. They’re allowed to want to die knowing that they at least tried to make it right with you, without necessarily pretending the bad stuff never happened.

It’s not always for good reasons but parents starting to become good parents is not always (intentionally or unintentionally) manipulative, and I think it’s wrong to pretend it is.

People are allowed to improve. Nobody is perfect. Not allowing people to improve is not a good way to go about life.