There’s something intensely unhealthy going on when parents discourage age-appropriate independence. A 13 year old should probably be allowed to go see a film with their friends most of the time. A 16 year old should probably be allowed to drive/ride a bus/bike to a friend’s house most of the time. An 18 year old should probably be allowed to travel overnight with their friends most of the time. A 20+ year old should be allowed to come and go as they please, with some common-sense “Let’s talk this ‘move to Finland’ plan of your over before you follow through on it” exceptions.
Parents should want their children to enjoy going out and doing things on their own and with their friends. They should be delighted that their child wants to have a life of their own. A rich, fulfilling life outside the home and distinct from parents and family is important, and parents should want their child to have that.
Today on “I think a white person wrote this”
Umm…No. this isn’t a “white person” issue. I’m Black & EVERYTHING she just described in the post is 100% relevant. We gotta stop writing off discussions about unhealthy & overly strict parenting as “white people shit”. It’s so old and tired. 😒
A rich, fulfilling life outside the home and distinct from parents and family is important, and parents should want their child to have that.
I had an 8pm curfew even at age 19. I had to ask to go over to friends houses still. I was maybe allowed out once a week, twice if lucky and never on school nights. Getting rides to events was bargaining and begging.
The result? I literally had no idea how to be social and my social anxiety was through the roof when I moved out.
When I was told no and had to stay home? Most of that time was spent watching TV with my family and being told not to talk. This was said to be family time but interaction was frowned upon unless on commercial break so you didn’t get any real conversations of substance. But then I got made fun of or fussed at for going to my “cave” because I was bored and wanted a quiet place to chill.
I also didn’t have a lock on my door until age like…18-19?
Kids should ABSOLUTELY be allowed life outside of the house. It’s limiting to them to teach them they’re not allowed independence or that they have to beg for independence.
Only on Tumblr can a discussion about child independence lead to “y’all be white”
Tag: parenting
Y’all really gotta stop throwing ya boyfriend’s video game systems in pools and cuttin up they shoes and lighting they clothes on fire just because you mad or you want his attention bc if he responded by throwing them $100 eyeshadow palettes in the pool or cuttin up a brand new lace wig you gon be pissed as hell, as you should be. It’s not cute, it’s abusive. And you need to fuckin stop
Say it louder for the parents who think it’s okay to destroy their kids stuff as retaliation for disrespect
before you ever even consider having a child you should be ready to handle a disabled child, you should be ready to handle twins, you should be ready to handle a gay child or a trans child
because if you’re not ready for your child to be anything other than one straight, cis, able bodied and able minded child, you’re going to end up neglecting and abusing somebody for years to come
and even if your child is all that, you might have a feminine boy or a masculine girl on your hands. so be fucking ready for your child to be a human being and not YOUR PRODUCT or PROPERTY or CREATION
fucking sort your shit out, i am so tired of shitty parental sob stories about how “hard” it is to “raise” (read: beat the divergency out of) an autistic child or whatever. do you know what’s harder? being the divergent child of parents who you’ve already let down by virtue of existing in a way they didn’t ask for. putting up with years of neglect and abuse because you’re just not good enough for them, you weren’t what they were planning for or expecting.
Last paragraph is a fucking mic drop
hey um i know this sounds dumb but please reblog if u think parents tracking their kids is an invasion of privacy thank you
A pediatrician shows how to calm a crying baby (Video)
Babies are weird. I don’t like that they cry a lot. I cry a lot and I can’t have that kind of competition in my life right now.
I do this to my son and it works lol
Reblog to save a parent
Reblog to save a concerned uncle who has no idea what the hell they are doing. (E.g. Me)
no offense but fuck adults who are like ‘you kids never just go outside and play anymore’ where the hell in my schedule of going to school for 7 hours, coming home and doing 3ish hours of homework, going to extracurriculars, and finding time to sleep do i have time to go outside and fucking frolick in the streets
Not to mention that teens who do spend time outside are seen as trouble-making or deviant for doing something as simple as using the fucking swings at a park.
Adults: Teens never go outside anymore.
Teens: *go outside*
Adults: ITS A GROUP OF TEENAGERS THEY MUST BE OUT CAUSING TROUBLE
Six hours of homework a night the entire time I was in school and three separate occasions I’ve gotten questioned by the police just for walking home but yeah it’s those damn lazy millennials
This is a fucking mood.
And the reason that when I have kids, if the teacher overloads them with homework I will be having a very firm, stern meeting with them asking them exactly how they can fail so terrifically at teaching my child in the time they are given, and continuing by asking them if they assume any profession on the entire damn planet consumes 8+ hours of time in-office combined with 6+ hours of time out of office doing paperwork at home.
This is especially true since, if my future kids have ANY of my predispositions, they’ll have too many hobbies and vocations to deal with even on a normal schedule.
With that in mind, if a teacher wants to be willing to work with said kid (”Look, I want to build a catapult. If I show my work, will you count it as a homework grade for this unit?” etc etc) then I have no problem; the issue I have is forcing some kid to repeat the same set of the same problems in an attempt to force rote memorization in the direct face of the fact that such measures are less than effective compared to other means of education.
if u shit on your child’s adhd by constantly talking about how difficult it is for you, how hard you have to struggle w it, then pls take a hard look at yourself and consider how difficult it is for your child to be in this position and on top of that to have to hear you say those things about them. i don’t care whether it happens intentional or not. you don’t get to make your child’s struggles about yourself. yes, adhd can put a significant strain on the whole family but that is no excuse to treat the affected child like dirt
There are a lot of absolute idiots in the comments saying things like “a good dog will never hurt a baby” and “the child is never to blame if the dog attacks” and “special snowflakes call everything abuse”
Listen here you fucktards: dogs. Are not. Fucking. People. They don’t operate by human logic. They don’t follow human moral codes. It has nothing to do with it being a “good dog“ or not. If you were getting hit and pulled on and punched and scratched constantly, you just might react. A dog can’t speak up and say “hey please stop that you’re hurting me“. What he can do is move, lunge, bite, etc. These actions might intentionally or unintentionally harm your child. Use your fucking head and don’t let your kid beat up on your dog no matter how many times he’s “taken it” before; you never know when he might snap. Don’t teach your kids it’s OK to treat animals like punching bags and they’ll never react. That’s immensely unfair to both the animal and the child. You could have a hurt or dead child and a euthanized dog because you were fucking dumbass who thought the dogs were just there to be treated like toys.
Same goes for cats and any other pet. Teach your child how to properly treat animals or don’t have any fucking animals.
children are so pure every child deserves a chance at a pleasant childhood and caring upbringing
“I let you live here rent free!”
YEAH, BECAUSE I’M YOUR CHILD. YOU MADE ME. I AM YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. I WOULD NOT EXIST IF NOT FOR YOUR RECKLESS GAME OF GRAB-ASS. I AM YOUR FAULT. YOU HAVE TO– TO AN EXTENT –TAKE CARE OF ME. I DIDN’T ASK TO EXIST. I HAPPENED BECAUSE OF YOU. THIS IS ALL ON YOU.
If you want to live with a rent-paying roommate, get a roommate. Don’t fucking have children. Don’t have children. Because children are SEPARATE HUMAN BEINGS WHO WILL ALWAYS NEED FOOD AND SHELTER UNTIL THE DAY THEY DIE.
I’m just so, sooo pissed off about the West’s attitudes towards adult children. “Time to move out!” Bitch, to where?? With what money that I’m not already spending on groceries and essentials and giving to my parents for bills?
“I feed you and take care of you, and you don’t pay me!” I SHOULDN’T HAVE TO PAY MY MOTHER AND FATHER TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR RESPONSIBILITY
CHILDREN ARE A LIFETIME DEAL, YOURS AND THEIRS!!!
THEY DIDN’T ASK TO BE BORN!!!
DON’T GUILT YOUR CHILD FOR BEING ALIVE WHEN YOU’RE THE REASON THEY EXIST!!!!!!
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