as a former pageant kid the amount of emotional abuse i went through because of my mother always pushing me to be beautiful and then blaming me and hating me when i didnt win was fucked up. being a pageant kid gave me an eating disorder and has seriously fucked with my self esteem. don’t put your kids through this. don’t let your 5 year old be objectified by others and yourself.
It’s not just the pageants though, it’s the culture of many parents to use their kids to show off. Instead of a pageant being a fun little thing where the kids dress up and look cute it’s a bitter competition that the parent is in to WIN or ELSE! Instead of a little league game being kids having fun doing sports it’s parents screaming at refs and coaches because their little angel didn’t the special treatment that they the parents…. I mean the kid deserved!
I reckon Your mother didn’t put you in it because it would be fun for you, because you wanted to dress up and be pretty, she did it for an ego trip. And that’s a terrible problem in too many parents and it goes beyond just pageants.
Can we please be the generation that stops putting up with the family child molester? The grown uncle who dates teenage girls, the husband who makes uncomfortable comments about young women’s clothing, or the cousin who raises red flags with their behavior towards children but no one wants to talk about all need to go. Children, especially young women, are expected to “keep the family together” by not making a fuss over incredibly traumatic behavior. Children don’t deserve to suffer trauma for adults’ feelings of togetherness. They’re more worthy of protection than predators. A healthy family is not built on the backs of abuse survivors expected to live their lives in silence without justice, support, or protection.
Can we please be the generation that stops putting up with the family child molester? The grown uncle who dates teenage girls, the husband who makes uncomfortable comments about young women’s clothing, or the cousin who raises red flags with their behavior towards children but no one wants to talk about all need to go. Children, especially young women, are expected to “keep the family together” by not making a fuss over incredibly traumatic behavior. Children don’t deserve to suffer trauma for adults’ feelings of togetherness. They’re more worthy of protection than predators. A healthy family is not built on the backs of abuse survivors expected to live their lives in silence without justice, support, or protection.
Something for the martyr autism-hating moms who will start whining on Christmas…
Your child’s autism didn’t ruin Christmas. You ruined Christmas for your autistic child by forcing them into situations they can’t handle and wondering why they had a huge meltdown.
Autism doesn’t ruin Christmas. People who refuse to understand it do.
Something for the martyr autism-hating moms who will start whining on Christmas…
Your child’s autism didn’t ruin Christmas. You ruined Christmas for your autistic child by forcing them into situations they can’t handle and wondering why they had a huge meltdown.
Autism doesn’t ruin Christmas. People who refuse to understand it do.
Make them sit in their rooms in silent and do their homework alone
Side with the teacher and not get your child’s side of the story
Tell them that their grades are the most important thing they should worry about
INSTEAD:
Ask if they’re having trouble with other students or teachers
Sit down with them and help them with what they don’t understand
Speak calmly instead of yelling
Don’t invade their privacy by looking through their devices
Don’t take away their hobbies as punishment
Never make them feel unsafe or unable to trust you
This has been a message from a struggling high school junior that wishes their own parents actually did this stuff.
Bonus: Don’t look through their freaking backpacks. Chances are they know damn well they have loads of unfinished papers and the stress of knowing is so overwhelming they don’t even wanna look at it.
Also: Don’t belittle or minimize their struggles. If they need support with mental health, help them find a therapist – and for the love of all that is good, do not make therapy a punishment for bad grades. Actually genuinely care about their mental health and prioritize mental health above good grades.
ifesbob 