Fun Fact! Two Weeks Notice is not a REQUIREMENT in any sense of the word. It’s a nicety. A polite gesture, and only polite for the MANAGEMENT because THEY want time to find someone to replace you. They cannot withhold your last paycheck if you refuse to give two weeks notice, and they cannot force you to work the two weeks. Additionally, they cannot report that to any future employers who call them regarding your work history. In fact, they’re not allowed to comment on your performance AT ALL! Legally they are only allowed to confirm that you were an employee during the dates you list – anything else and they open themselves up to civil lawsuits in which they can be sued for damages for any number of reasons. So fuck Two Weeks Notice. if you work for a fucked company, they deserve to get fucked in return.
If you ever feel bad about not giving two weeks’ notice, or like you’re being unprofessional/unfair, think about this:
If your boss fired you, would they give YOU two weeks’ notice? Or would they have you escorted out of the building then and there?
Anything they don’t owe you, you don’t owe them. Fuck ‘em.
Oh these are therapeutic
i had a boss fire me and then say “you still have to come in for the next 2 weeks”
they expected me to train my replacement lmfao i spent company time looking for a new job
My sister, who I live with, thought she couldn’t get the vaccine because she doesn’t have insurance.
We’re not really used to “free”…. spread the word.
It depends where you go too. I tried to sign up at CVS and it said “free with insurance”
In the US they are not allowed to charge an individual for this vaccine. They are allowed to bill your insurance. Whether you have insurance or not, you will not pay anything.
THERE WILL BE A QUESTION ON THE REGISTRATION ABOUT INSURANCE YOU DO NOT NEED TO FILL IT OUT.
When I registered there was a page for insurance information. We were instructed just to put “no insurance” and keep going.
And for people who have covid, many treatments exist to help reduce suffering and critical situations, so long as you know to ask for them. Also care for covid can be very minimal in some states. Check with your state’s insurance providers. It’s as easy as googling how to get treatment for covid if you have been diagnosed.
ok so ……. why is “you don’t need to disclose your entire medical history for your experiences as a nd/disabled/etc person to be valid” a controversial take
no seriously i mean this actually. people will list their entire diagnostic histories in their little carrds out of fear that they’ll post abt something and someone will come to them and say “hey you don’t list that you’re such and such, you can’t talk about this” as if you have the right to judge ppls experiences in the first place; if someone posts a vent abt their chronic pain and your first instinct is to like check their bio and see if they list that they’ve got a health condition somewhere that “validates” their vent you should probably stop worrying about other people and get therapy or something
– An older adult solely hanging with younger teens (I’m talking 25yo & 15yo) and who doesn’t seem to have any other adult friend is a red flag.
– An older adult talking to a younger teen and saying stuff like “you’re the only one who understands me” “I’d hurt myself if you weren’t there” “You’re my only friend” is a red flag.
– Someone (regardless of age) who constantly ends up in discourse & drama is a red flag.
– If you’re afraid to talk to your friend(s), if you feel like you’ve got to tiptoe as to not set them off and get yelled at/ostracized/worse, that’s a red flag.
hey so protip if you have abusive parents and need to get around the house as quietly as possible, stay close to furniture and other heavy stuff because the floor is settled there and it’s less likely to creak
socks are quieter than bare feet on tile/wood and for the love of god don’t wear slippers/shoes if you can help it
climbing ON the furniture will disrupt the pattern of your footsteps and make it harder to hear where you are in the house
crawling will do the same and if you get caught crawling you can pretend you fell
the floor near the wall can be really loud if the floorboards/carpet is old and not completely flush to the wall
do NOT attempt to use a rolling chair to travel without footsteps. they are extremely loud and hard to steer
Also. Breath with your mouth and not your nose. Your nose will whistle. Trust me. If you need to get into your fridge, jab your finger into the rubber part that seals the door closed and create a tiny airway. This will prevent the suction noise when you open the door. When drinking liquids (juice mostly), pour out your glass (or chug from the jug) and replace what you drank with water. If it was full enough in the beginning, no one will notice. DO NOT STEAL ALCOHOL. THEY WILL NOTICE IF IT’S WATERED DOWN. Bring a pillowcase for dried foods like cereal and granola. It helps to muffle the sound it makes when it pours.
If your house has snack packs (like gummy bears or crackers or chips), count them every day until you know the rhythm that they get consumed. (This took me a week and a half with my twin brother and sister). Then join the rhythm when you make your nightly visits. It will be that much harder to figure out it was you.
KEEP A TRASH BAG UNDER YOUR BED FOR WRAPPERS AND STUFF BUT DONT FORGET TO THROW IT OUT WHENEVER YOU CAN. BUGS YKNOW. Hope this helped.
I might have some useful info to add.
-a jar of peanut butter is long lasting and easy to hide under a bed or in a dresser drawer. I lived off of jars of peanut butter and boxes of saltine crackers I would buy on grocery trips with my mom.
-two words: Slipper Socks. These are the socks that have rubber designs on the bottom for grip. They make no noise, and also keep you steady on slicker surfaces like tile and wood. You can find them cheap at Walmart. They also keep your feet more protected if you’re outside.
-if you’re secure enough in your room to have a small food stash, make sure you’re not too obvious about it (duh) but also move its location every few days. I kept mine in a shoebox under my bed, then switched it to a backpack in my closet, then wedged between my bookshelf and wall, and I would cycle locations until i moved it permanently to a false-bottomed drawer I installed in my dresser when my father was gone for a weekend. I would NEVER put food directly into my stash after taking it. I would keep it in pockets of my clothes and between books until everyone went to sleep, then I’d stock and stow my stash for the next few days.
-get a water bottle with a filter in it. I used to be able to reach my bathroom from my bedroom door down the hall using a huge step or minor jump/leap. If I was afraid of being caught at night, I’d fill up the humidifier tank we kept under our sink while I took a short shower, and would refill my water that way. It might not be the best option, but I kept a small stockade of water under my bed for emergencies.
-if you can, smuggle your garbage out in your backpack or purse. Dispose of it at work/school. I got caught twice by carelessly throwing away packaging.
-if someone knows the situation you’re going through (close friend/partner/etc) see if there’s a way for them to get food or other supplies to you at school or work or what private time you may get. A hidden first aid kit literally saved parts of my body before and I owe it to a close friend.
-try learning the building’s natural rhythm. The house I grew up in would creak and settle heavily every night for 3-5 minutes. That was my shot, and I had to be QUICK. I still got caught a few times, but learning the patterns in our floors and walls, when they creaked, WHERE they creaked, kept me going. Eventually I was sprinting in slipper socks to the kitchen and back in less than 90 seconds.
-if you have stairs, or live upstairs. Sit as you go down them one at a time, or climb up them like an animal. It keeps you low/out of lots of motion sight, and also can reduce noise and creaking by distributing weight over more than 1-2 steps.
-You can use common hand sanitizer to remove the stains certain snack foods leave behind (coughs cheeto fingers) and a dry toothbrush can help scrub the color off your tongue. If you can get powdered toothpaste or toothpaste tabs to keep on hand, it makes a huge difference in sneakiness.
-I don’t recommend going for dried foods like granola or cereal unless you can sneak it to a secure place to get it. It’s too loud, it’s a gamble every time for something with less caloric intake than it’s worth if you get caught. Of course, there are times when that’s the only option!!
-if you’re taking milk, add water, but be SURE to shake/agitate the bottle to distribute the dairy fat with the water. I got into the habit of shaking milk jugs when I started sneaking it, and explained the habit as something I read in an old comic strip my father showed me. (Back when whole milk had a lot more cream fats and they’d separate, so shaking it would redistribute the cream.) I still shake milk jugs to this day.
-if your windows open or don’t have screens, eat leaning out an open window. Any food mess will be lost in the dirt. I was lucky I had bushes and birds outside that would catch my granola bar crumbs before anyone could notice.
-canned goods are tempting, but not worth it. It requires too many tools (can opener/strained sometimes/utensils/some need heat) stick to thinks like various nut butters (sunflower/peanut/almond), crackers, dried fruit, and easy to conceal food bars (nature valley/nutrigrain/etc.) dried ramen packets are good uncooked if you can stand the texture. Apple sauce and pudding cups are also easier to sneak and stash than one might think, and can be eaten with your fingers. The only canned foods I recommend are condensed soups and precooked pasta (spaghetti-o’s). You can easily mix them with a little bit of hot water from the tap and get something more sustaining than a handful of captain Crunch. The cans are cheap, sometimes recyclable, and drinking soup takes way less time than chewing solid food.
-if you menstruate, attempt to stash pads/tampons in a safe location. Sometimes shit happens. Pads can work as bandages in emergency situations. Sometimes shark week comes unexpectedly. If you can sneak a roll of toilet paper or paper towels, these are also life savers.
-plastic utensils from takeout containers can be hidden inside socks and will be worth their weight in gold when you least expect it. I bought myself a tiny plastic bowl from the dollar store and kept cheap trinkets in it on my desk so it didn’t seem like a bowl I was eating out of. You could try this with something like a mason jar, which is also useful for drinking out of or storing water.
-if you’re eating a crunchy or solid food, try soaking it in water. Mushy food can be repulsive in texture, but I could clock the sound of someone eating a nature valley oat bar from like 6 miles away. Dunking it in water (or using a secret bowl+water) can reduce noise, and also eating time since you don’t have to chew as much.
-keep a laundry bar or tide pen on you. Laundry bars are super useful, a little hard to find though. I washed a lot of stains out of my clothes with laundry bars in my bathroom sink as a kid. Not proud if it, but it kept me flying under the radar at school.
-clear rubber bands, plain twine or string, paper clips, and thumb tacks. Indescribably useful. I once rigged a system to open tricky cabinets and get objects from inside using two paper clips and a foot of plain string like a mock lasso system.
-if you’re pulling objects from tall cabinets, use your chest or stomach to cushion them. Let them fall into your torso and then into your hands cradled underneath. Not as loud, not as much grabbing, if someone sees it they can mistake it for it falling on you by the body language.
-get a bandana. Or four. Napkins, bandages, tool, and accessory all in one.
-get a tiny sewing kit. I’m talking 3 needles and a spool of thread tiny. Scissors if you can sneak it. See things into your clothes. Make hidden pockets or compartments. Threadbanger on YouTube did a video a few years ago about sneaking things into music festivals using tiny clothing mods, but they may be useful in sneaking money or medicine.
-on the topic of sneaking money. don’t take bills, take change. If your abusers don’t meticulously count their nickels and pennies, they’re an easy(ish) way to build up a tiny savings pool. I found nickels the least noticed coin I took, even more than pennies, and taking two every few nights from where they’d be tossed on our countertop soon built up to a semi-reliable fund I passed off to someone to get me food for my stash without having to sneak it from the kitchen. As soon as I became “independent” in my food storage, I was subjected to much less scrutiny. I managed to build up a solid 1-2 week ration supply after hoarding change.
-you can tape SD cards to the inside of book dust covers(the part that folds inside the actual cover of the book), if you have a sewing kit or zipper on it inside the stuffing of your pillow (trim a corner, stuff it inside, stitch it closed) or (this is final resort) VERY CAREFULLY remove the covering from your outlet and tape it to the wall stud before replacing the casing. I kept mine inside part of my wooden bed frame that I hollowed out using, you guessed it, take out silverware knives and 4 nights without sleep.
-THE FLOOR IS LAVA WAS KEY TRAINING FOR ME AS A CHILD. I learned to take pillows with me, climb on furniture to disrupt my flow of movement, toss a pillow down, and use that to cushion any rattle our living room could give off as I crept to the kitchen from the side entrance so my mom’s dog wouldn’t bark or alert anyone. I highly suggest crawling around on all fours like some sort of beast to stay out of sight.
-can you run your house blindfolded?? If you can’t. Maybe you should try to learn. I suffered some heavy eye traumas growing up and had a collective 3-4 months just IN THE DARK. Eyes bandaged, left alone. It was terrible, but damn if I couldn’t navigate the whole place silently, without any visual cues. This helps a lot with the whole moving around in the dark thing, too. Listening is obviously key.
-if your parents start getting suspicious, or you’re suspicious they’re getting suspicious, watch out for traps. String on the ground that gets shifted when you walk on it. Baby powder or flour left to track footprints or doors opening/closing. My dad was partial to wrapping a bungee cord around my doorknob and attaching it to the closet across the hallway. I wouldn’t be able to open my door enough to get out, or if I did, I risked ruining the structural integrity of the wrappings he did, and he would notice.
-learn to tie some knots. Strong ones. They’ll come in handy at one point or another.
-remember that you’re not totally alone. There’s people out there for you. Wanting to make everything better. You don’t deserve what’s happening, it isn’t normal, and you will eventually find help. But staying safe is important, and you are important.
It upsets me that people might need to know these but I know it could really help someone by reblogging
ALWAYS REBLOG
Things that have helped me over the years:
•Keeping a $10 bill on the inside of my phone case for emergencies. My mother will search my wallet and bags but has not taken my phone case off when she takes my phone as of yet.
•stashing loose change I find in the soil of my potted plant. Very quiet hiding place for coins. All bills are quickly confiscated but coins I have managed to hold onto this way
•changing food stash locations constantly. A good stash I’ve found is buried in my mice seed mix. Small packages or granola bars can fit in there pretty easily and the wrappers are flushable (I know it’s bad to flush them but my trash is routinely searched)
• always deleting online traces in case of phone/computer search. This includes search history, forbidden apps, messages, pictures, notes, games, etc. I don’t know how many times I have deleted the tumblr app during the day only to re download it late at night to use it. My phone and computer are constantly confiscated and gone through with a fine tooth comb. I delete anything I might possibly get in trouble for after I use it and re download it when I need it again. Don’t delete all your browsing history though, they will notice if it’s suspiciously empty. Fill it with safe and approved stuff and remove anything you might get punished for.
•learning what each and every door in the house sounds like so I know who is where at all times without having to leave the room
•learning where those ‘sweet spots’ are in the house where you can notice anyone coming before they can see you or what you are doing
•always having a pre-approved cover. I use books and preaching videos as covers. I can hide a phone in a book or quickly switch apps to the one playing the video if surprised or discovered.
• always being aware of ‘the trail’. If I tell a friend something who tells their sibling who tells my sibling who tells my mom I get punished so basically tell no one and it won’t come back to bite you. This includes talking about tv shows/movies that are forbidden, forbidden foods/drinks, activities, apps, games, friends, political views, etc. Express an opinion and it’s bound to reach someone you don’t want it to.
•never take from your abuser’s personal stash of food or money. The family pantry is fair game to carefully pilfer from and so is loose change but never take from their personal purse/wallet, fridge, pantry, or stash. They WILL find out.
•beware of traps and manipulation . My mother will leave money and food unattended and wait for it to disappear. She will also act like she wants to do a good thing and help you out but in the end you will pay for it a hundred times over. Avoid this if at all possible.
• NEVER develop a false sense of security. I have made the mistake of not deleting an app (Pinterest) because there had been a few weeks between phone searches and I felt a little safer. I got caught and severely punished. ALWAYS COVER YOUR TRACKS. Don’t get too confident in your methods, eventually they will find something. Make sure it’s something minor.
Here are some i’ve learned
If your parents don’t already have parental locks on your phone then you can access them yourself and create your password yourself. If you ever feel like they’re suspicious of your phone then you can quickly go into parental locks and make it so any apps that are rated above a certain age will be hidden and unaccessable until you turn it back. There’s videos of this on YouTube that explain it better.
When high-school teachers ask for parents information, give them an email thats one letter/number off. This way if you’re caught you can blame it on the teacher mistyping/mishearing (this one might not work if your parents are really focused on teachers, however mine weren’t so I was able to get away with it)
It seems obvious but tiptoe. I would say crawl but I’ve had multiple knee injuries that make crawling really slow and it hurts. Being able to Tiptoe is the next best thing, practice running/walking quickly on your toes. The faster you go the quieter it’ll be.
If you have an easily accessible attic (mine is on the second floor and the door is a normal one not a pull down) then hide shit in there. Not enough to be suspicious but I’ve been able to hide food in the attic so I could have it after my family fell asleep
My parents used to give me food that fucked with my sensory issues on purpose and then pull the “you’ll be here till its gone” bs. I figured out that I could get the food into my underwear then flush it down the toilet. This is a very situational fix, it doesn’t work with all food and it won’t work if your parents watch you eat.
Have a code word/emoji with your friends to signal that a parent is reading over your shoulder in text convos. I deleted all my text threads with my friends as they happened but sometimes I needed to quickly change the subject as a parent walked up behind me.
Have parent safe social media fakes. Make a parent safe tumblr/insta/Twitter, as some parents will let you have them but only if they approved by them
This might’ve already been said but hide shit IN other stuff. Pillows, beds, stuffed animals. I had a very well loved stuffed monkey that got a hole, I made it very obvious that there was a tear and then fixed it with thread. I would cut the stitches and hide my phone/food/notes in it and then sew it back. (I kept a mini sewing kit my step mom loves crafting so I got away with that) if they ever got suspicious id just blame the reopened tear on my poor stitching and that was it.
Life 360 will disable locations if your phone is in data/battery saving mode. I used this so I could go to off campus lunch, or when I was at a friend’s house and we went somewhere I wasn’t allowed. This isnt something I’d recommend for long periods of time, your parents know that your phone can’t be low battery 24/7 and it will look suspicious.
Look for specific words your parents will say when they start getting irritated. I learned that my dad spoke/acted in certain ways that would predict a blowup and started using that warning to make myself scarce or pull on the “im a perfect angel” act to minimize the damage
Make your lies as close to the truth as humanly possible. You didn’t answer your dads call because you were at Brittanys house watching a movie you aren’t supposed to watch? No, you didn’t answer because you guys finished watching (insert approved movie) and then you took a shower. Making your lies almost truthful helps insure that you won’t psych yourself out and show your tells
Speaking of Tells. Learn what yours are. Do you avoid eye contact? Do you tug at your clothes/body? Do you stutter or skip over words? Learn them and you learn to avoid them
If you go out to dinner and you feel like your parents are moody, leave your phone in the car. If you bring it in chances are they’ll want to search it, if you leave or in the car you can say you don’t have it on you and you won’t be lying.
Take it from someone who has been around the fandom block:
fanfiction.net is dying.
all the signs are there.
if you have no other record of any fics you have there… you might wanna… like… do something about that.
Whoops. I did not intend for this post to blow up in the way it did. I’m not saying this is gonna happen tomorrow or even this year. I don’t have any inside information, and I’m purely basing it off of past experience. They could surprise us. Who knows?
The signs I’m seeing are based off of watching other fandom-driven websites in their end days.
The biggest glaring red flag: they no longer have any visible active moderation team or admins that are working on Fanfiction.net specifically. Reports are going unanswered on everything from plagiarism to abuse to page-breaking ads. Emails are not returned. Twitter mentions are never addressed.
Based off of their limited Twitter activity, all of their resources appear to have been funneled to FictionPress, leaving Fanfiction.net to flounder. If a website does not have anyone actively attending to it, it will eventually die.
The abuse alone could drive users from the website. When users are receiving repeated death threats and they have no way of curtailing the abuse or banning abusive users from messaging them, users will eventually just leave. Admins would have the capability of blocking the IP addresses of people sending abusive reviews and messages, but… what admins?
The code update that went through a few years ago that broke many old fics was never fixed. Many users are reporting major issues in uploading fics. The more they leave the site unattended, the more things will break.
The domain is registered through 2028, but if they keep going in the way that they are sooner or later it’s just going to wind up as a barely-functioning corpse of a website.
I am convinced that the only reason they leave it up is to collect ad revenue. If users continue to leave due to abuse and unreliable service, that ad revenue is going to tank.
I’ve seen this happen to so many websites over the years, and they rarely – if ever – get a revival.
But again – they could surprise us. I’m not counting on it, though. Nobody’s home anymore.
This is well-timed, because I logged on there a couple months ago to back up all my old fics. Put in my username and password. Someone else’s account information loaded up. I literally logged into some stranger’s account with my own user info. My fics were there, but the profile (including the user ID number) was someone else’s. I took a bunch of screenshots and sent in a support email aaaaaaaand nothing. I managed to snag all my fics and that’ll be it for me for that site. I don’t know wtf is going on there but it ain’t good.
Reblogging again because my friend mentioned being locked out of her account and ff.net blocks people from copy pasting, so she was afraid her fic would be lost forever when the site eventually goes down.
If you are in danger of losing all your old things, I found a reddit thread with a number of work arounds so you can get your fic off the site.
As of 26 March 2021, the staff of FictionPress have confirmed they are migrating FFN to the same server – which is extremely bad news for that server and for FFN as a whole.
Lots of technical stuff is going haywire too based on using the Inspect tool in Google chrome.
Get your fics while you can.
Hey! If you didn’t know you can copy and paste from ffn’s mobile site. If you want to copy paste from the browser for convenience sake go to m.fanfiction.net
Also, you can “print” the page as a PDF. I did this a while ago, though I haven’t been able to get into my account in a whe.
things you shouldn’t say to (or about) an autistic person:
you don’t know any better
stop pretending like you don’t know what I’m saying
how don’t you understand? it’s so simple
r slur. dont say it period.
stop being so dramatic, it’s not that big a deal
stop using your autism as an excuse
*explaining things in a condescending tone like we’re children*
smol bean, so precious and innocent
well it’s not like they can understand anyway
*talking about us like we’re not there*
you’re faking for attention
but you’re not that autistic
but you’re really good at talking!
everyone’s a little autistic
stop doing those weird motions! you’re drawing attention!
you’re a buzzkill
it’s so hard to talk to you
oh so you’re like a robot! a machine!
nevermind. (you basically admit that we’re not worth the extra few seconds it would take to include us.)
*laughing or shrugging us off if we say we don’t understand*
don’t take things so seriously (especially when we talk about ableism. never say this.)
you’re reading too much into it
wow so you’re like not even human
oh so like sheldon cooper?
I know a lot about autism. I’ve watched rain man
but you’re not screaming or flapping your hands?
but then how are you talking
oh so you must be really good at math
so are you like really good at chess?
I bet you’re really good at playing a lot of instruments
ohmygosh, the good doctor is my favorite show! it’s sooo good
sometimes when I’m in a bad mood and I’m tired, I can’t tell what people’s faces mean, I’m probably a little autistic too haha
you’re just a little awkward/it’s just social anxiety
you’re exaggerating
so can you tell what this face means? *makes some random constipated expression* (I think it means you’re ugly, Susan.)
you’re just quirky!
don’t be so sensitive
they’re not all the way there…
I thought you’d be ranting or info-dumping about your special interest 24/7
I met an autistic person before but you guys are nothing alike
but you’re not a boy?
but you’re not white?
I read somewhere on [insert obscure, non-factual blogging website] that you could cure it by lighting incense. (stop trying to shove cures at us. they don’t work, and we don’t want one anyway.)
that’s so tragic
your parents are so strong!
but then how are you making eye contact with me?
so you don’t feel any empathy?
are you like a psychopath?
autism moms are superheroes
you’re emotionless
so you must be really nerdy and into sci-fi huh
I bet you’ll cure cancer! (unless they have explicitly stated their interest in medical research or stem, don’t assume that that’s where their interest lies)
why are you so anti-social?
have you even tried to make friends?
it’s not that loud, I’m not gonna turn it down
don’t rely on aids! you’ll get there through hard work and determination. aids will only slow you down in the long run
you’re insane
you’re no fun. you’re like a cranky old person
this show has really good autism rep!
what do you mean it’s not good representation? I think you’re being too harsh and judgmental
but you’re actually really nice? I thought autistic people had no filter
no you’re not, I would know
that must be so hard for your family
so are you low- or high-functioning?
do you read really fast like reid from criminal minds?
I wish I was autistic
you’re really akward
you’re bad at conversations and social cues. (thanks, I hadn’t noticed.)
no, don’t call yourself “autistic”! say “person with autism”, because you are more than your disability ❤
but you don’t look autistic
autistic people, feel free to add more 🙂
allistic people are encouraged to reblog, but don’t clown
*SLAMS REBLOG*
Don’t bring up Atypical/Big Bang Theory/Criminal Minds/The Good Doctor/(insert subpar drama/comedy show featuring a super stereotypical savant pasty white boy here) as an example of “oh I know about autism!” I’m this close 👌 to choosing violence
disability advocacy went wrong when it became about inspiration porn and “differently abled” and savants. its incredible that that guy with no legs did a triathlon but your sister with no legs will not and she doesnt need prosthetics or five hour training days to deserve respect and compassion and accommodations. its incredible that that autistic guy can look at a city from a helicopter for an hour and then draw the entire detailed skyline from memory when he lands but your autistic friend cannot and they dont need to have a special Autism Power to deserve respect and compassion and accommodations.
activism framed around “we are just as CAPABLE” means that when people genuinely are less capable they are left behind. activism framed around “we are just as WORTHY” is fundamental to radical compassion.
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