“dont say americans are stupid for our leadership’s decisions because a lot of us, esp those of us who live in poverty + minorities whose voices arent represented in leadership, are not responsible and also targeted by these desicions and you will never feel the effect as hard as us. also, dont use the things like school shootings and our healthcare systems as gotchas against us because its fucking horrible + heartless”
aaaaand then they’ll turn around and say the exact same shit abt the south. haha these southern states are reopening how dumb!!! haha the south has [this problem that mostly affects people who LIVE THERE and affects poor disenfranchised poc] theyre so dumb LOLZ do u know how u fucking SOUND??
Also, like- can we normalize all types of stimming, not just flapping hands? Normalize pacing. Normalize vocal stimming. Normalize tapping your toes. Normalize singing to yourself. All stims are valid stims, and we deserve to be able to use them.
hey so if you couldn’t tell by my multiple vent posts thinly-veiled as funny joke posts about job hunting, i’m having a REALLY hard time finding work right now. i’ve been unemployed for five years now due to both juggling school and severe mental illness, and i’m desperately trying to get back into the work field but no amount of resume help or application peer revision is helping. so if any of you want to commission me, here’s an old commission image i made a while back. please message me if interested. thank you.
Filed under: yikes, get a new girlfriend, doubleyikes
A classic example of what abusive behavior in women can look like. This isn’t cute or sweet or just for anyone’s own good, this is controlling.
Young gents (and wlw and nb folks interested in ladies), if your girlfriend or prospective girlfriend presents you a list like this (especially in writing), you crumple that shit up, drop it at her feet, remind her that you are not property, and walk away.
This shit isn’t funny or cute when a man does it to a woman; do not tolerate it just because it’s coming from a woman.
I’ve commented on this post before but I’ll keep saying it –
Do not throw something like this out
Keep it. Hide it somewhere safe that you’ll find it again – like where you keep your tax receipts, for example. Keep it in a plastic bag and touch the actual paper as little as possible to preserve fingerprints. Maybe write the date they gave it to you on the bag itself.
Should the person who gave you this try anything to harm you after giving you something like this – this piece of paper is evidence of their harmful intentions. If it comes to the bringing any kind of authority into your situation, without this piece of paper it could just turn into a huge ‘he said/she said’ situation and that’s not a situation you want yourself to be in. Especially if the other person is a good enough actor.
Oh yeah, I forgot I have a huge grudge against coffee places like Dunkin Donuts and Starbucks. Cause like, I used to get coffee or lattes for my morning shifts and I knew i was going to be eating beef when I got to my work (my usual is the plain roast beef sandwich at my work, cheap as fuck). So I’d usually order my coffee or lattes without cream or milk, since I’m kosher. And so many times I’ve had them put dairy without my knowledge and I find out hours later when I’m shift and my stomach is cramping to hell and back. I don’t drink dairy because it causes pure hellish agony, and I’m kosher so the fact they gave me dairy and i ate meat in the same meal pissed me off.
I worked food service, i don’t care if it’s a “difficult” order, pulling that shit can fuck the customer up and it’s not funny or respectful.
I always hate it when people are all “so do you go to school, or are
you working, or” and I either have to
make up some lie, or
eventually get
around to “I am not working because of depression/anxiety,” and
subsequently have to deal with whatever bullshit-riddled and completely
unsolicited opinions on mental illness this stranger feels obligated to
share with me.
So my therapist was like, “You don’t have to do either.
You can just say you haven’t worked in a while because you’re recovering
from an illness.”
I tried it when the home inspector was here today, and it fucking worked.
He was like, “oh, I’m sorry, are you doing better now,” and I’m like
yeah, and don’t worry, it’s not contagious, awkward laugh, and we moved
on.
MY THERAPIST. IS A GENIUS. Because it is an
illness, so it’s not a lie to say that, and it’s also none of his
business to know specifically what it is, and I clearly don’t want to
give more details, so we should move on from this topic. MYTHERAPIST IS A GODDAMN GENIUS.
Dude I needed this. I never know what to say when people ask if I work because I’m severely disabled and don’t work.
REBLOG TO SAVE A LIFE HOLY SHIT
To add, this works on job interviews too. I once had to answer the ‘so whats up with this gap of 8 months in your resume where you were unemployed?” and I just said I had suffered an illness and I needed time to recover.
It’s easy enough, not a lie, and puts them on edge enough that they usually don’t go digging.
note for job interviews, at least in the U.S., it’s illegal to even ask about a disability, so any good employer will not dig into that statement any further. if they do that’s a red flag. (they can however ask if you are able to specific essential functions of the job)
ifesbob 