realize that it’s perfectly fine to admit that you’re wrong when you are. it’s okay to take a step back and resist the urge to get defensive. its okay if you misunderstand things sometimes. it’s okay to be incorrect. there’s no shame in not knowing.
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lol stop making fun of the way people look, i don’t care if you’re dragging an evil politician or a friend, many people have the same features and you’re not immune to feeling awful about your own looks after seeing others get belittled for the same physical features. if you’re gonna joke and laugh about a rich person’s weight or teeth or whatever, newsflash, it sends a clear message that you think these features are ugly or funny and anyone who shares similar features will feel like shit about themselves or develop a new insecurity. drag their personalities or actions, leave bodies alone because those are things we get born with and most of the time can’t fuckjng change.
amab nb people deserve so much more respect and recognition. i feel like they’re one of the least visible groups in the community and we need to acknowledge their existence much more. whenever their existence isn’t ignored they’re either seen as extremely gnc gay men or watered down trans women.
we need to recognise them and their experiences. whether feminine, masculine, or androgynous; whether aligned with manhood or womanhood or both or neither; whether attracted to men, women, other nb people, any combination, or no one at all. especially nonwhite, jewish & muslim, disabled, neurodivergent, impoverished, elderly amab enbies. they exist. non binary doesn’t mean white skinny androgynous afab teen!
Just if someone drool or not eat drink good not be mean not say am gross not say yucky because not are fault if drool things like that hard to me because hypotonia and tbi and epilepsy and all mess up brain and mouth to much make really hard to me do things makes really upset people mean is something not do purpose can’t change how am
i wish someone had told me at 13 that depriving yourself of food and sleep is very much a form of self harm
hey kids i know sometimes things are very rough, and feeling like ur in control of ur suffering can be a coping mechanism for a while, but pls eat and sleep, and try to be gentle to yourself if you can
I feel like it’s time we talked about how there is no such thing as universal accessibility. One space cannot be accessible for every single person. And I don’t say that to suggest that we just shouldn’t try making spaces as accessible as possible, but rather to say how important it is that we have multiple, different spaces.
A place that is well-lit and has lots of natural light will help many visually impaired people, but it will be a nightmare for anyone with photo-sensitivity. A small, dimly lit, quiet space might be ideal for somebody with sensory overload, but not for somebody with claustrophobia. A solarpunk utopia where the cities are filled with plants and trees and green might massively help the population’s depression and general spirits, but it would be hell for anyone with autoimmune disorders and allergies.
At the LGBTQ+ Christian group I go to, there are some really flamboyant, loud, and excitable extroverts there, who love to sing their hearts out and clap and dance during worship. There are also people who have sensory issues and anxiety exacerbated by loud noise. It cannot be a safe-space for everyone to express themselves freely, if it’s also a safe space for those with anxiety.
In a learning environment, one child with ADHD may need to bounce their leg or fidget with something in order to concentrate, while another autistic child finds that incredibly distracting and makes them anxious.
A small, tight, cosy space that’s reminiscent of a village pub or small cottage might be ideal for making me feel comfortable, sheltered and reducing my anxiety and social exhaustion, but it wouldn’t be very accessible for a wheelchair user or someone with physical mobility issues. I am both of those people.
Nobody is doing anything wrong, nobody is being victimised by another person, there’s no right and wrong in these situations. It’s just that those people have opposing needs that can’t be accommodated in the same space at the same time. And we need to talk about that.
What’s important is that we create different spaces to cater to a multitude of needs, and that we listen to people’s needs. Most importantly we need to look at which groups of people and which needs are often ignored, and which people have very little access to spaces.
people are allowed to leave you.
people are allowed to break up with you.
people are allowed to love you but not want to be with you.
people are allowed to not want to talk to you.
people are allowed to put their happiness before yours and do what makes them happy even if it does not include you.
people are allowed to move on from you.
people are allowed to fall in love with someone else.
people are allowed to not want you in their life.
people are allowed to do whatever they want to better themselves and become the version of themselves they are trying so hard to love.
don’t be bitter towards someone who is only trying to be happy.
ifesbob 