one of the ways i know this culture has a massive issue with consent
is the sheer amount of people I’ve known that just lie & tell people they’re deathly allergic to foods they dislike
because otherwise people will hound them, mock them, coax them, harass them, try to force them to eat it, or even trick them into eating it, and they will never hear the end of it
your coworkers will bake it into a fucking pie, call it something else, and wait til your birthday, gather everyone and their first cousins to sit around in a circle waiting for you to put a forkful into your mouth and then point rhythmically at you in a chanting, glaring, sweating, unholy circle like SWISS CHARD SWISS CHARD YOU JUST ATE SWISS CHARD HA HA HA SWISS CHARD NOW YOU LIKE SWISS CHARD
Because forcing someone into a situation where they don’t feel safe declining putting something into their body they’d rather not be there is totes 100% wholesome American fun
And this is something so known that it’s infinitely easier to just lie and tell people that you’ll die if you eat that food…which actually doesn’t always stop it from happening
I literally told one of my coworkers that alcohol interfered with my meds and I wasn’t drinking because it might kill me. (It wasn’t true, but that kind of underscores the point here, because I didn’t feel safe refusing him). He still tried to pressure me into drinking, demanding that I just “try it once and see what happens”. This was only the beginning of the bullshit he pulled.
I work at a camp with a zipline, rock climbing, and other activities. We have to repeatedly get in between people who don’t want to do a challenge and their peers/bosses/parents pressuring them into it. Seeing my coworker, a four-foot-eleven woman, get in an angry drill sergeant’s face and tell him very politely that he’s not allowed to force his soldiers to go on the zip if they don’t want to gave me three extra vertebrae. Some people feel incredibly entitled to other’s choices, and when you remind them that they aren’t, they get aggressive. Most times passively. Some times not.
For some people, no doesn’t mean no. No means force. The fact that they can’t legally use it outright doesn’t tell them it’s wrong, just that they have to resort to trickery to get their way, because they know best. They choose professions like police officer, nurse, or parent to assert that control, that need for dominance over those they consider unworthy. And we let them, because we as a society believe that certain people should be controlled for their own good, and teach that from the cradle.
Consent isn’t limited to sexual experiences. You’re not being a “baby” or “stubborn” for not engaging in experiences you don’t want to.
i remember being like 11 and asking my dad why he hunts and kills deer and he said “because i think theyre beautiful” and that’s just. that’s just what men are like
Yeah… &?
Is it any different that women seeing cute things & wanting to squish their face?
Is killing different than endearing physical contact? Local man unsure
I really like … many aspects of hunting. And I think animals are beautiful.
may I present
What is the point of mounting something like this sad, gross, proof that you will end a beautiful life for no good reason….
when you could frame you up a trophy like the photo below !?
This takes at least as much skill, and involves all the same wilderness stalking. It proves that you are both brave AND compassionate. There’s no downside to doing this instead.
Imagine you go to somebody’s home, and they have a trophy room filled with beautifully composed close up photos of wolves and deer and boar and eagles and things all over the walls, with a couple camera guns mounted up there too – on one wall is a photo of a standing bear who obviously sees the person taking the photo and it’s been blown up so the bear is life size (that’s why you need that gun-barrel lens, so the quality holds up when you enlarge the pic) The person you are visiting is like, “yeah, I took all these.”
THAT’s impressive. A room full of dead things just means they are weird and gross and pointlessly cruel and proud of it.
^^^
My dad goes out into the woods and takes pictures all the time. He still calls it “hunting” and when he comes home, he literally says “Hey, look at what i shot!” So doing this allows not only for great photos and time with nature, but also an A+ Dad Joke.
I swear to god if I keep seeing this stupid “Durr hurr hunting bad” post on my dashboard I’m going to go nuclear.
your father answered a question when you were 11 in a way which could be as quick and easy to understand as possible. “because they are beautiful”. many hunters do have extreme respect for their quarry – it’s expensive to get the bust of a deer you hunted taxidermied by a professional, and that professional will take hours making sure it’s as life like as possible.
it’s true it’s scummy if that’s the ONLY reason he hunted, but it almost certainly wasn’t. very few people hunt for trophies alone, and even when they do it is normally deer, which NEED to be hunted in the United States and the UK to control populations as we no longer have any predators for them. the meat from deer is usually the main drive – I can’t speak on predator hunting like bear, but I do know the taking of bears and lynxses are highly regulated and expensive. hunting is not a bad thing. not to mention the main reason is for food.
and that stupid gun-camera thing? no doubt more expensive than a license, and a gun, and paying for a bag of pheasants after a shoot. and you can’t eat photographs. wildlife photography is a lot of fun, but it isn’t for everyone, and the insinuation that “you could just have photographs instead of gross taxidermy!” is insulting to the Taxidermists and artists who spent years of their life learning how to best preserve an animal which will have died anyway. actually fuck that entire narrative – a room full of natural history doesn’t make you gross. I own a cabinet full of skulls from naturally found animals as well as byproducts of hunting and cleaning them myself is a time consuming, delicate task, and I do it because I have a profound love for animals and nature. I find it fascinating seeing how they’re built and how they work, and the vast majority of people who have a collection are nature lovers who know more about the natural world than most people and certainly aren’t spitting “hunting bad!” rhetoric.
TL;DR this post is full of clowns, hunting is necessary and tightly regulated, hunters are not cruel heartless monsters and neither are people who own taxidermy, they are by and large people putting food on plates or learning about the world. sincerely, someone who is “"pointlessly cruel and proud of it”“
Quick add on – YES bears specifically are edible, a good handful of people where I live (most of which are ojibwe natives, if you need another reason to see this post is dumb) have hunted bear, and guess what!! While the pelt is beautiful, black bears are BIG and have a lot of meat on them!! Of course people are going to want a mount/tanned hide of their bear, cuz you can only hunt 1 at a time and its a special occasion!!
So maybe next time before someone decides that anti-hunting is the hill they gotta die on, perhaps consider a um,,, *certain group* of people who’ve been doing this for thousands of years, with deep respect for the animal, and have their way of life constantly threatened 🙂
ok but literally no thats not how my brain works no matter how much i care about something, it can be just as easily forgotten as something i dont care about
those little things on ur nose aren’t blackheads, don’t try and get rid of them they’re sebaceous filaments and they’re permanent and literally everyone has them
every girl has that little pouch of fat on her lower tummy, despite what magazines try n show u, you have important organs there that need to be protected don’t try and get rid of ur pouch
ur body is smarter than u think and it knows what to do when u eat more than normal. one bad day, or even week, of eating poorly isn’t gonna ruin anything at all I pinky promise
if u think u look good up until u try taking a selfie, it’s not ur fault – our faces are asymmetrical and when u see ur face flipped it will look unnatural to u, since u don’t see it that way when u look in the mirror. to everyone else it looks perfectly fine
no one’s stomach looks the same at 8pm as it does at 8am. no one has a chiseled six pack after a day of eating, not even the super fit people u see on tumblr, because ur stomach naturally expands after eating and expecting to have a flat tummy before bed is very unrealistic
no one notices if the bags under ur eyes are bad today. no one pays attention to the bump in ur nose or the zit on ur chin or the piece of hair that u missed when u were straightening. literally no one notices these things except you so stop worrying about it ur gonna be fine
hearing the john mulaney “do my friends hate me or do i just need to go to sleep” bit is the best thing to have happened for my mental health because every time i’m afraid my friends hate me it’s around the time i should be going the fuck to sleep
I read somewhere “if you feel like everyone hates you you need to sleep and if you feel like you hate everyone else you need to eat” and it was honestly world-shattering and I wish I’d heard it years ago!
please respect people who are mentally ill and disabled who cannot work. please respect people who look like they’re just relaxing all day when really they’re waging an internal war just to stay alive or fight their pain. please respect people who could not finish school, people who had big plans and could not see them through because of disability. people who look from the outside like they’ve “given up” or “aren’t doing anything.” people who are hospitalized repeatedly or permanently, and people who are grown adults who are still dependent on others. please respect disabled and mentally ill people.
this is not a polite suggestion, by the way. it’s an angry demand. we are people, and we deserve the same respect as anyone else.
Just a reminder that it is not your vet’s job to report if your pet got into recreational drugs. We aren’t snitches, we have no obligation to report drug use. We do, however, want to save your pet so please be honest with us about what your pet got into. It could literally be life and death for them.
i initially read this as a cat picking up a cocaine habit on the street and not being a narc about it before i realised you meant pets accidentally ingesting their owners drugs
ifesbob 