NOTHING makes me more mad than people shoving aside creepy behavior just because the person in question is neurodivergent and doesn’t pick up on social skills well. there was this girl in high school who got way too touchy with me no matter how many times I told her to stop and the fucking school guidance counselor and school psychologist were like “well you can’t blame her because she can’t pick up on social cues well”. i’m neurodivergent too but if someone begs me to stop doing something it’s kind of fucking clear they don’t like it???
just the way people approach neurodivergency is so infantilizing I hate it. if you ever reblog a post about how it’s ableist to react angrily to someone invading your space i’ll fucking kill you. half the things you guys call ableism are just straight up not, and this isn’t even a tumblr thing, it’s something supposed medical professionals believe.
It’s no longer a social cue if someone says “stop, i don’t like that” it’s literally just someone verbalizing what they expect you to do. which is stop.
okay but do you understand that liz wallace made the bechdel-WALLACE test because she was a dyke who wanted to go to movies and pretend the characters were dykes and her friend alison bechdel happened to put her silly little litmus assessment into a comic strip and then the rest of everyone else decided it was a bona fide way of means testing media for Feminist Content? do you know that? it doesn’t sound like you know that
Also like…
Nobody is saying women in movies can’t talk about men in a romantic context. What is being said is that women in movies often talk about nothingotherthanmen in a romantic context.
Do you want to know how low the bar is? Do you want to know?
Iron Man 3 passes the Bechdel test. Pepper and Maya have a brief talk about Maya’s work.
THAT’S IT. THAT’S HOW LOW THE BAR IS. Two named female characters have a conversation about something that isn’t a heterosexual romance. Fucking IRON MAN managed to pass.
Now, here’s the issue. Do you know why this (informal, often misapplied) test is a thing?
Over three-quarters of movies cannot pass it.
At least 75% of the time, a woman’s driving force in a movie is entirely and only romance. Either that, or she is isolated from other female characters to the point that she may have very interesting motivations….but no other women to talk to about them.
Like I said it really disgusts me how so much educational information and art revolving around uteruses/ovaries/vaginas is all ~womanhood~ ~motherhood~ ~sisterhood~ like no….that’s a fucking organ. Not saying uteruses and vaginas etc aren’t cool but they certainly aren’t some great indicator of mystic womanly power. They’re quite literally just an organ.
So many people are mad at me for saying gender is a social construct. And yet none if them can define man and woman for me in a way that’s true across time and culture.
I’m an anthropology major and an animal behavior minor (meaning lots of biology classes) and gender is literally a social construct. Almost every single one of my classes regarding my major and minor have had some point in it where we discuss gender being a social construct and how it varies from culture to culture and throughout human history. In my bio classes we also always discuss how sex isn’t binary either and isn’t the same thing as gender. From all sides gender is literally a fake made up thing. This doesn’t make it not a huge part of our lives and society but it is not a real tangible thing. Gender is undefinable and it is infinite, kind of like art.
“Gender is a shell game. What is a man? Whatever a woman isn’t. What is a woman? Whatever a man is not. Tap on it and it’s hollow. Look under the shells: it’s not there.” ― Naomi Alderman, The Power
seriously tho driving thru fraternity areas is so scary like youll see a crowd of people who literally all look identical and are blind drunk in the mid afternoon bellowing and screaming
my failed clones: trent, evan, chunt, tristan, throck and cock. they should have never been born and im going to euthanize them via lethal injection
There’s a popular post going around that’s like “well tone indicators are helpful for people for anxiety because some people need stuff like “ /nm (not mad)” or “ /nbh (nobody here)” and I absolutely get it because I have an anxiety disorder but like. You can very much add that on the text of a message itself and it will be way more clear and accessible than expecting them to memorize this whole new fabricated code.
Which one do you think will be clearer, faster to understand, and more direct to the point:
“oh my god someone is pissing me off /nbh”
“oh my god someone (not from this server, don’t worry) is pissing me off”
or
“have you done the dishes? /nm
“have you done the dishes? don’t worry, im not mad, just wondering”
You can be mindful of someone else’s needs and talk to them in a way that is respectful and understanding of those needs. The key is communication. Expecting people to memorize a lot of abbreviations is like the contrary of accessible.
Imagine having so little braincells you think wasps are capable of the emotions required to purposefully be assholes and are useless, nd then turn around and praise honeybees that arent even native in half the places they exist
quick protip: if someone is crying or freaking out over something minor, eg wifi not connecting, can’t find their hat, people talking too loud, do NOT tell them how small or petty the problem is to make it better. they know. they would probably love to calm down. you are doing the furthest possible thing from helping. people don’t have to earn expressions of feelings.
I’m just gonna put it out there that if someone’s freaking about something small, they’re really freaking out about something big that they’re trying to deal with, or something long term that’s been building up, and that little thing is the straw that broke the camel’s back.
I don’t know, try and give people the benefit of the doubt. Don’t be the next straw on their broken back.
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