My daughter wears track pants and T-shirts. She has shaggy short hair (the look she requested from the hairdresser was “Luke Skywalker in Episode IV”). Most, but not all, of her friends are boys. She is sporty and strong, incredibly sweet, and a girl.
And yet she is asked by the pediatrician, by her teachers, by people who have known her for many years, if she feels like, or wants to be called, or wants to be, a boy.
Tag: gender
I don’t necessarily believe there’s more than two genders but hell if my experience as a person with a gender aligns with that.
Transsexual is outdated and offensive?
Buddy transgender and transsexual are goddamn synonymous
Steps to Follow If You’re Thinking About Misgendering Someone Because You Don’t Like Them
1) ??? Don’t
2) Don’t
3) don’t.
Something I’ve noticed: when kids on this site try to explain “nonbinary”, they always end up basically arriving at “androgynous”.
It’s something I’ve seen a lot (and for other tumblr genders too). They always end up talking about gendered stereotypes, personality, or providing a cute little illustration of someone wearing a dress one day and a hoodie the next.
That’s… that’s not a gender.
Your clothing choices and *aesthetic* are not a third gender.
Identifying outside your gender because you don’t exactly fit gender roles is actually enforcing them. It is not breaking the binary.
Claiming to be “not a man” because you are feminine is enforcing gender roles.
Claiming to be “not a woman” because you are masculine is enforcing gender roles.
Claiming to be nonbinary because of the reasons above is enforcing gender roles by creating a separate category outside of “man” and “woman” when you don’t fit those boxes 100%.
The funniest thing about “non dysphoric trans” is that… I have dysphoria. And yet I still don’t consider myself trans because I don’t think I need transition.
Anyway, point being, why would you call yourself trans if you aren’t going to change anything about your body?
Tbh even if nonbinary isn’t medically provable (aka if it doesn’t exist) there’s no reason to say “he or she” it’s clunky, and we have a perfectly good word DESIGNED EXACTLY FOR THAT PURPOSE, “they”!!!! WOW!!
so like..when will tumblr stop treating trans males like we’re all fragile feminine boys who need to be protected..lmao…
I know I’m annoying with this and that I’m occasionally reblogging this post but I just wanted to add something to this:
transgender boys on this website are so infantilized and it’s just that, not all of us have rainbow dyed hair and a pastel tumblr theme and just like…..stop with that shit please
Not as big a deal for us as you guys, but Tumblr also does this to gay and bi guys. Like you can’t ever be a masc adult. You have to be a glittery smol softboy.
Like you may think it doesn’t matter, but one of the biggest hurdles for me in accepting my sexuality was that I’m a fairly masculine person IRL and the moment I told people I was bi they started perceiving me as this fem rainbow man because of all the stereotypes. That actually really, really fucked with my sense of identity.
I don’t understand how saying there are only two genders is controversial since neither side is really proven? Hell, brain sex theory is really not concrete yet at all (some evidence proves brain isn’t sexually dymorphic which makes things complicated and disproves gender as biological, which is concerning. Same with gender being binary or not. Closest thing proven is Agender but it’s not even close to being proven…) No point in shutting down either side if it’s not clear cut?
I’m of the mind that it’s better to be open-minded until research disproving non-binary genders surfaces than it is to be close-minded and potentially hurt thousands of non-binary individuals.
If you’re open-minded, there’s really no downside. You’re just being kind and welcoming to people who are as confused about their gender as you are and who need support. There may come a time when science proves gender is binary, and, at that point, I’ll gladly change my views, because I’m not the sort of person who’s going to plug my ears and scream any time evidence against my viewpoint is presented, but, until then, the safest bet, the one that’s best for everyone, is to be kind and accepting.
Of course, there’s a line in the sand you have to draw at some point, because, yeah, fucking stargender and ariesgender are patently ridiculous–but for things like bigender and agender, that’s much more plausible.
If you’re close-minded, though, you’re denying people the support they may legitimately need. Non-binary people are still sex dysphoric. That sex dysphoria still stems from somewhere, even if it’s not what they think. I’d be willing to bet that if non-binary identities were proven impossible to exist, many non-binary people would further explore themselves and realize they were binary all along.
So you’re excluding actually dysphoric, actually transgender people from the community, erasing them, shouting them down, no matter what happens.
I generally don’t support people who take a, “THIS DOESN’T EXIST!!!” stance on things that have yet to be thoroughly researched, specifically when they use it to antagonize and erase others.
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