sounds-neet:

gottalovesteak:

z01dberg:

stop using your mental health issues as an excuse for being a horrible friend

theres a difference between not being able to actively communicate with ur friends because youre too depressed or executive dysfunction is hell, or accidentally lashing out and profusely apologizing and ACTIVELY WORKING to minimize it in the future…

theres a difference between all of that and just blaming your really gross behaviors on something and going “cant change it. its just who i am. sry i hurt u but its gonna happen again bc i chant change smh why cant u accept me smhhh”

I had to tell one of my friends today that as a group, our circle of friends no longer wants to see him because of this behaviour. We tried everything. We tried telling him how it makes us feel, we tried ignoring it and accepting it, and we tried talking to him about it head on. None of it worked. We had no choice.

Please understand that the people you treat this way have limits. They are human. You may think they need to tolerate you because they’re your friends, but they absolutely do not. They will leave you and you will be alone. Even if you’re incapable of seeing the effect this behaviour has on your friends, at least start by seeing the effect it will have on you. Nobody wants to be alone. It’s not an ideal outlook, as it is still inherently self centered, but it’s a start on a long road to becoming a better person and a better friend.