*wants to study a language* *doesnt study the language*
*wants to watch new movies* *doesnt watch new movies*
*wants to do stuff i like and enjoy* *doesnt*
this is called depression
OH FOR THE LOVE OF–
AN ACTUAL THERAPIST SPEAKING HERE: THIS IS PERFECTLY NORMAL. WE ALL DO THIS.
IF YOU FEEL LIKE IT’S A BEHAVIOR PATTERN YOU CAN’T BREAK BY YOURSELF, SEEK HELP; BUT I REPEAT, THIS DOES NOT AUTOMATICALLY MEAN YOU HAVE DEPRESSION OR ANY FORM OF MENTAL ILLNESS.
WILL YOU PEOPLE STOP PATHOLOGIZING EVERYTHING ALREADY!? NEWS FLASH: WE’RE ALL HUMAN AND OUR MINDS ARE INCREDIBLY COMPLICATED AND JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT HAPPY OR YOU STRUGGLE WITH SOME THINGS OR YOU’RE DIFFERENT THAN THE MAJORITY DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE MENTALLY ILL.
it really bothers me that so many people on this site treat ableism like it’s black and white.
just now i saw a post where op was like “i’m glad that spinners are popular because it normalizes fidgets and decreases stigma” and someone replied like “no!! it’s absolutely TERRIBLE that neurotypicals are using these fidgets because when they get in trouble they make things harder for mentally ill kids!!” and like you guys do realize that? you’re both right? it isn’t a decisive fact that neurotypicals using fidgets is either good or bad, there are both benefits and consequences that need to be taken into consideration.
a few months ago there was a post going around that was like, *neurotypical voice* why are you bouncing your leg, and somebody reblogged it saying that the post was ableist because autistic kids can get overstimulated by leg bouncing. i go to a school for the mentally disabled, and i’ve been in this exact scenario, my classmate wasn’t able to focus because i was bouncing my leg and although i felt bad i told him that i wouldn’t be able to stop for long because i do it subconsciously due to my adhd. he wasn’t being ableist for asking me to stop, and i wasn’t being ableist for saying i couldn’t, we just both had different needs. in the end, our compromise was that i went to work in the computer lab.
you have to understand that there is always more than one side to issues like these, and that we should be striving for understanding and balance over demonization of one side and blind support of the other. this is especially relevant when people on both sides are mentally ill or disabled, because sometimes symptoms will clash and you just need to deal with it.
I’m really tired of complaints about “neurotypicals” playing with stim toys. I would really appreciate it if people stopped assuming everyone around them is neurotypical, some people are on meds, others can pass as neurotypical and honestly you can never truly know unless someone tells you, and no one owes you that. I get countless messages about people suddenly recognizing what stimming is because they see me stimming on my blog. Stop trying to restrict stim toys, you don’t know if that random person you’re complaining about is neurotypical, and honestly someone else could be thinking the same thing about you …. and reminder I was called annoying and distracting in class for stimming without stim toys. This is an Ableism problem, and the root of this problem is with teachers and administrations, and the assumption that everyone you see is neurotypical.
Normalize stimming and stim toys.
I would rather everyone be able to be seen with stim toys. If they’re an exclusive thing, then they could become a sort of tool to out people as ND. That would restrict some people from using stim toys that would be otherwise helpful, if passing as NT is something they need to do. If everyone can use stim toys, then that becomes less of an issue in those cases.
valid criticisms towards the popularity of fidget items:
a lot of people don’t realize they’re useful for children (especially neurodivegent children) and treat them like bad distractions instead of useful devices
invalid criticisms towards the popularity of fidget items:
”you’re stealing something that’s useful for neurodivergent children only” this might surprise yall, but you cant expect fucking 6-11 year old kids to know that they’re neurodivergent. What you brush off as NTs treating your tools as a fad, could be a young child unknowingly finding a device that helps them focus. like what do yall want schools to do? psychoanalyze every single child there to see if they’re worthy enough to own a fidget item.
“they’re treating it like a fad” normalizing fidget toys can make a lot of neurodivergent children more comfortable with owning them.
“NTs are getting them banned from classrooms!” little kids aren’t getting the toys banned and pinning the blame on them solves nothing. the real problem are uneducated adults who fail to understand that these toys have a purpose and value.
something that never ceases to amaze me is how groups of people rebel from what is ‘mainstream’ but all in the exact same way so even their non-standard, rebellious work or aesthetic ends up just another, different set of cliches and stereotypes
fidget toys but every time neurotypical people misuse them at inappropriate times it gets faster
How can someone misuse a fidget toy? Are they using it as ammunition in a slingshot? Are they pressing too hard and breaking it in two? Are they trying to eat them? I need to know how someone can use a toy wrong.
who fucking litters. why do i ever see litter. who thinks that’s okay. who. who NEEDS to throw their fast food bag out the fucking window instead of waiting until they get somewhere with a trashcan. what kinda clown behavior. get fucked.
look, with mother’s day coming up, I feel the need to remind people that there are people out there who
don’t get along with their mothers,
don’t think their mothers are beautiful,
don’t want anything to do with their mothers
and guilt tripping them in any way, or shaming them for not buying gifts/flowers/etc… is ignorant asshole behavior, and is v detrimental to someone’s mental stability surrounding any abuse they received from their mother.
so hey who else was taught as a kid that “”””wanting attention”””” in any way was wrong and shameful and has grown up unable ask for help or support even in great distress/suffering
Parent: why do you never come to me for help
(two days later)
Me: I need help with something
Parent: CAN’T YOU SEE I’M BUSY WHY CAN’T YOU DO ANYTHING BY YOURSELF GOD YOU’RE SO-
Me: never mind
And don’t forget the You Can Tell Me Anything (Except Things I Don’t Want to Hear)™.
Bonus round of You Can Tell Me Anything (But If I Don’t Like It You’re In Big Trouble Even If You’re Asking For Help)
Don’t get me started on the whole: You never talk to us then precedes to shout at you any time u call Or the: we never spend any time as a family then spending the whole of dinner either abusing each other or in awkward silence
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