If you see posts that don’t include the ace or aro flags, op is probably aphobic.
And no, this isn’t as grey as posts missing lesbian flags. Because at this point nobody has any idea what the official lesbian flag is. Yes there absolutely should be lesbian flags, but we really need to figure out which one we’re actually going to use before expecting people to make posts and merch featuring it. But there aren’t 15 different ace flags and no one is arguing about aro flag alternatives.
If a post has a bunch of flags but makes it a point to not have aspec flags, op is almost definitely aphobic and it’d be cool if you could maybe not reblog those posts. There are millions of other pride posts you could be reblogging. It’s pride month and I’m real sick of seeing people unknowingly reblogging from aphobes. This also applies to posts without the nonbinary flag.
Signed, a tired agender ace lesbian.
This is the kind of shit I’m talking about, by the way. Especially the second… like, all those letters but only those flags?
(and yes the people who made these are aphobes, first one is also a panphobe)
It’s that month, I wasn’t sure what to make for this then i remembered seeing some bottles and figuring that would be kinda cool to do. So here are Ace, Bi and Aro Bottle Potions.
If you don’t believe being asexual has any negative affect on people I was told by a psychiatrist that none of my relationships count because we didn’t have sex, and
I can’t say I’m gay since I don’t want to have sex with girls.
and I was taken off my antidepressants because they may be lowering the libido I never had in the first place (plus various other reasons, but still immediately, cold turkey, which should NEVER happen unless they’re switching you to something else)
But aphobia doesn’t exist and asexuals are privileged, right?
Sorry to add to this but I wanted to say since I’ve had bad experiences with mental health professionals and biphobia, I usually get asked “but are you sure you are sexually attracted to both sexes, are you sure it’s not just an emotional attraction?!” Like my dude don’t you think I can tell the difference between wanting to date someone and wanting to be friends? Also, due to be gray ace 90% of the time I am not even attracted to anyone but like sure, make me feel guilty that I can’t “prove” my bisexuality.
Sorry too but to add on, being aro isn’t much different. I told my therapist and she was immediately concerned that my meds were repressing “all my emotions” and wanted to take me off them. My insurance ran out and I went off them bc of no money before that happened. She also suggested dating someone anyway to “fix” the “issue” and expressed concern that my emotions (romantic feelings) weren’t present because “I’m suspicious and untrusting of everyone and don’t want to try hard enough.”
Having your orientation medicalized and invalidated is bad enough, but its fucking dangerous to have your meds taken away because you’re not performing relationships the way some doctor thinks you’re required to.
I honestly cant believe that the statement “If you are teaching kids/teens about sex and sexual feelings then you should also teach them about asexuality and lack of sexual attraction so that they dont feel like something’s wrong with them and force themselves into traumatizing sexual situations to feel “normal” when their peers start developing sexual attraction and start discussing and engaging in sexual activities “ is a controversial take here and is called “discourse”
ifesbob 