I think this is a fairly common experience, actually, especially for people who already identify as ace and are unlearning the societal messages they’ve been taught and questioning what is their authentic feelings and what is just baggage. I think the best things to do are a) to talk to trusted community members both on and off the aro spectrum about their experiences and see what matches up with yours and b) to trust yourself and give yourself room to figure things out at your own pace. There’s no rush to identify or to pin down specifics; you can take as much time as you need to feel secure in whatever identity you end up with.
-Dew
Tag: aromantic
Daily Affirmation 411.
Your love is worth celebrating too. Your aromanticism is worth celebrating.
ace and aro exclusionists and aphobes are not welcome here
bigotry, exclusionism, and hostility towards marginalised groups shouldn’t be enabled or welcomed in places like the “stimming community”, people shouldn’t be made feel unwelcome, unsafe, and shouldn’t be met with hostility.. especially because the theme is meant to be calming, it’s meant to be playful and stimulating and soothing… so people feeling hated or unsafe just for their orientation should really not have any space in these blogs or spaces, or this community
Okay listen up you little fucking shits. if yall want ro fucking unfollow me after this, go for it. i dont care.
im done with people saying that aro/ace people arent valid, arent fucking queer enough for you. if i see anymore of this fucking bullshit, i will fucking scream more then i ever have. im just fucking done.
i dont know what we have to do to prove ourselves to you. aro/ace people are lgbt+ and honestly, im done proving that you. I KNOW im aromantic, and i know im lgbt+ just being aromantic.
also, ive had enough of shitty fucking blogs hating on my friends. just stop, theyre innocent small children that did nothing to you. if your gonna hate on anyone, hate on me.
Jesus fuck it’s not that aro is invalid it’s that it’s an unnecessary label.
It’s a personality trait, not an Identity.im sorry, but how the fuck do you know? are you aromantic? and sorry, but if being aromantic is just a personality trait, so is being gay, and straight.
I don’t know what my sexual or romantic orientation is. It’s wholly inconsequential to me. I couldn’t care less. If I want to be with someone, it will matter then. I am who I am and that’s all that matters. Not what labels I use to describe it.
Great, then that would prove that ALL LABELS ARE UNNECESSARY. Labeling a specific part of your personality isn’t necessary.
Until you want to describe yourself to someone. But frankly, your lgbt status shouldn’t matter to any good person. So all labels are unnecessary.
And sexuality isn’t a personality trait because who you want to have sex with or lack thereof isn’t personality it’s evolution.
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