I really hate the way people talk about ADD/ADHD like it’s made-up and is just hyper little white boys screaming in their elementary school classrooms and shit like that.
It’s really, really hard to live with as an adult.
You can’t follow or remember schedules well, not matter how hard you try. You can’t organize your things or your to-do lists no matter how many methods you use. But adults are supposed to be organized, punctual, responsible people. They shouldn’t have to write things on their hands and arms because that’s the only way to even maybe remember it.
You can’t focus when you need to, and you end up so frustrated with yourself because you know you could do the work if you could just stop getting distracted every five seconds. But adults are supposed to be settled down and calm and focused by now. They shouldn’t be on the verge of tears because it’s taking three hours to read ten pages of a book for class.
You can’t stop tapping your fingers, doodling in your notebooks when you need to be taking notes, and making little noises to occupy your brain. But people just tell you to shut up and stop being annoying, and be mature for once.
You forget your meds one day and you can just feel how annoying you’re being but you can’t stop and you’re begging yourself inside to just stop but you can’t control it and you’re acting like a child and people get annoyed with you and don’t mince words to tell you that.
You scramble to appear like every other person around you who seems to have their life together, but you’re just not an adult in the way that everyone thinks adults should be and it’s so frustrating and draining and disappointing.
And then you see people claiming ADD/ADHD isn’t real, and kids who have it are a burden to their parents and teachers, and that you just outgrow it and by college you should be functional in the way that most people or functional. And you just feel broken and less-than and like you’re ten steps behind everyone else, just because you’re wired a little differently. And it’s so hard to be like that but no one takes you seriously. No one gets that it’s an actual developmental disability. No one gets how much you end up hating yourself because you aren’t what you’ve been told someone your age should be.
It’s just frustrating and difficult and no one seems to care or understand.
Tag: adhd
i genuinely love this person. that’s some quality tea right there
i always have to chuckle a bit when people claim that adhd isn’t that serious because the consequences of living with this stupid shit of a disorder have literally managed to made me want to die way before i even really knew what suicidality actually is. i was just a small kid when these sort of thoughts first started popping into my head. but sure, go on how adhd is only kids misbehaving and in need of a good spanking :))))))
so when your kid says something like ‘it’d be better if i wasn’t here’, that’s not normal!!! that’s serious. please take it seriously for fuck’s sake
Except it’s severity is literally different for everyone who has it. Take it from a guy who also has it. For me, it’s more of a background thing. It’s not very serious and it’s something I can ignore. It’s different for you, me and the 2 other guys in the room with it. (10 percent of the American population has it.)
and yet people continue to hold the belief that it’s just easy peasy smooth sailing for everyone, what’s up with that. obviously the severity varies from person to person, so how about we also address the more severe cases for once
My brother was diagnosed young and struggled a lot and even though I also struggled and wrote a letter when I was 9 about how I wanted to literally die, my parents didn’t do anything about it
Also to add on to that, I cried to them so much about how I couldn’t focus or keep a single train of thought or how I couldn’t sleep because my mind wouldn’t shut up and they still didn’t do anything? Take the struggles of AFAB people seriously hhhhhh
Stop treating kids with adhd like they’re stupid and lazy and just making up excuses
“adhd isn’t a disorder” bitch it’s in the NAME
friendly reminder that this handy chart exists
look at this collection of things i don’t have
you have them but your brain hates cooperating and needs some bribing
“kids can be cruel” yeah, they can be but they shouldn’t and aren’t by nature. maybe teach them that instead of condoning this kind of behavior
Some people are just wired like that man
still not a good enough excuse to just let it slide. ignoring is condoning, too
I think.. in fact I’m almost positive.. that kids who appear to “ just be that way” with exceptionally rare exception (fractions of a percent) can be taught how to behave in a better way.
And that shouldn’t be the behavior is allowed.
let people with adhd show symptoms without making them feel bad!!! stop degrading children with the condition as naughty little brats and instead realize that they suffer from a mental health disorder!!! don’t tell bright young minds that they will never amount to anything because of the way they are!!! symptoms are symptoms and no matter how hard one tries, it can’t always be controlled!!! let people with adhd be themselves without making them feel ashamed to be themselves!!!
ifesbob 