theres a new product by verzion called “hum” that allows your parents to track your car and places you go, if your parents are controlling like mine please check under your steering wheel to make sure that they havent installed this
here is what it looks like installed:
you can read more about it here, and here– this excerpt sums up what information Hum will send:
“a car’s owner will be able to get notified on their phone when the vehicle leaves a pre-determined area or drives faster than a set speed… [Hum] will enable location tracking and a driving log, which measures travel times, engine idle times, and average speeds.”
People in abusive relationships, please check your cars.
DO NOT TRY TO UNPLUG IT BY YOURSELF!
pretty sure verizon paid google to remove most content discussing the abusive potential of this product bc if you search “verizon hum abuse” or anything similar the first results are from verizon’s official site and such and everything after that is just news articles praising the product so yeah verizon absolutely knows what they are potentially enabling and they are actively trying to hide it
At loveisrespect, we know dating abuse can happen to anyone – including guys. One in 10 men has experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, but unfortunately that’s a fact a lot of people aren’t really aware of. Although people who identify as male make up a smaller percentage of callers to loveisrespect, we know there are likely many more who do not seek help for their abuse. So why the silence? Here are a few of the common misconceptions and stereotypes that can make it tough for guys who are experiencing abuse:
The belief that guys are supposed to “man up”
Although things are slowly getting better, our culture still clings to pretty narrow definitions of gender, and these definitions shape how we see ourselves and others. Boys are taught from a young age not to express their emotions, to “suck it up” and “be a man.” Former football player and coach Joe Ehrmann talks about the “Be a man mandate” in his awesome TED talk. This way of thinking can be really harmful to guys, especially if they find themselves in an abusive relationship. They may feel embarrassed that abuse is happening to them, since it doesn’t fit the cultural definition of “manhood.” They may feel discouraged to talk about what’s going on in their personal lives, or they may feel like they’ll be seen as weak by their peers. But abuse can happen to anyone, and the fact that someone is being abusive towards you doesn’t mean you’re weak.
The “abuse = guy hurting girl” stereotype
Put simply, dating abuse is a pattern of behavior used by one partner to try to gain and maintain power and control over another. There is nothing inherently “male” about being abusive or inherently “female” about being a victim. As a society, when we talk about abuse we tend to talk about male perpetrators and female victims who are typically in straight relationships. While we don’t want to minimize those stories, it’s important to remember that this isn’t the only way abuse happens. We should be respectful of anyone experiencing abuse, so that victims know they have the right to speak out about their own experiences and seek help. Abuse can happen to people regardless of gender or sexual orientation, and EVERYONE deserves support.
The idea that abuse by a woman towards a man is “funny”
We saw this in action with the elevator footage of Solange Knowles attacking Jay-Z in 2014. When a man is abused by a woman, many people don’t take it as seriously (in part due to the previous two reasons we’ve mentioned). Unfortunately, because we tend to think of men as stronger and as “the aggressors,” and women as weaker and “the victims,” the idea of a man being abused by a woman can seem laughable to some, but that just shows a lack of understanding about gender AND abuse. First of all, people come in all shapes, sizes and levels of physical strength regardless of gender. Even if the victim is physically stronger, they may not want to fight back because they don’t want to hurt their partner, or they may fear their partner turning the tables to make them look like the abusive person. Being abusive also doesn’t require being physically stronger, because abuse can take many forms unrelated to physical strength, like emotional and digital abuse. No one is immune to abuse, no matter how strong they are, and abuse is never a joke, in any situation, between any two people.
The fear that there’s no help out there for male victims
It can seem like the majority of services for dating abuse and domestic violence victims are women-focused. However, services for male victims do exist! Most federal funding sources require that domestic violence services be provided to all victims of abuse. Our advocates can provide information, assist with safety planning, and/or find local resources, if available. They can also help brainstorm alternative options if local programs are not meeting the requirements for male victims, including who a survivor may be able to contact if they believe they have experienced discrimination.
If you are concerned that you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation, chat with a peer advocate! We are here to listen and offer support and resources 24/7/365 to ALL victims and survivors.
theres a new product by verzion called “hum” that allows your parents to track your car and places you go, if your parents are controlling like mine please check under your steering wheel to make sure that they havent installed this
here is what it looks like installed:
you can read more about it here, and here– this excerpt sums up what information Hum will send:
“a car’s owner will be able to get notified on their phone when the vehicle leaves a pre-determined area or drives faster than a set speed… [Hum] will enable location tracking and a driving log, which measures travel times, engine idle times, and average speeds.”
People in abusive relationships, please check your cars.
Ive been seeing commercials on actual TV for not this specific product, but similar ones. Its absolutely terrifying.
If it’s used abusively it’s horrifying. If used the right way, it can be a life saver. My parents had one installed in my car and honestly; the emergency response button on it is incredible. I accidentally hit the button one time as I was getting out of the car, and the HUM center called my car through the device. Since I wasn’t in the car, the person on the other line only knew that an emergency call was placed and I was unresponsive. Despite this being a mistake and I wasnt actually hurt, the way they handled it amazed me. They contacted first my mom and when she didn’t know if I was okay, they contacted the police in my area and gave them an approximate location and vehicle description. This thing can save lives. It also tells u if anything is wrong with your engine, and what it is that’s wrong. You can also call for towing or general advice if your car breaks down. If used the correct way where it’s CONSENSUAL, it’s very useful.
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I’ve seen advertisements for these and it actually seems kind of terrifying, as a teen.
Oh so I was right (partially) when I first heard of it, it CAN be used for good.
theres a new product by verzion called “hum” that allows your parents to track your car and places you go, if your parents are controlling like mine please check under your steering wheel to make sure that they havent installed this
here is what it looks like installed:
you can read more about it here, and here– this excerpt sums up what information Hum will send:
“a car’s owner will be able to get notified on their phone when the vehicle leaves a pre-determined area or drives faster than a set speed… [Hum] will enable location tracking and a driving log, which measures travel times, engine idle times, and average speeds.”
People in abusive relationships, please check your cars.
I’m getting really tired of women being abusive to men and getting away with it. Stop belittling men. Stop hitting men. Stop acting like men are evil because they’re not. I’ve always felt so accepted by men and never accepted by females. Yes there are evil men in the world. But there’s also evil women. In fact there’s entire shows dedicated to evil women. Just…stop blaming men for everything.
Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.
Stop:
Yelling at him in front of his friends
Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like
Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you
Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him
Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend
Forcing him to spend every moment with you
Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws
Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake
Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want
Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want
Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you
Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes
Telling him you are the must thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love
Physically attacking him when ever you are mad
Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to
Invading his privacy by going through his phone
Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is
If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like shit. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy.
Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.
Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive.
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My brother was abused by his babies mom and it started like this and escalated to child abuse and neglect.
You don’t deserve to be screamed at, ignored, or assaulted.
Not showing affection when she wants or not hugging her before class) or missing a phone call doesn’t warrant getting cussed out or hit.
Lol, I lost 5 followers from reblogging this. That’s fine, y’all can go
Whole lot of grown women do this too.
Just wanna throw these in too
Being passive aggressive with him when he wants to spend time with friends or doing other things
controlling when he’s able to go out with friends
Breaking up his friendships with other girls just because you’re insecure
Making him feel like his opinions in decisions that affect the both of you are irrelevant and don’t matter
testing him in anyway in general without his knowledge or permission (example: catfishing! it’s manipulative and weird don’t fucking do that)
taking money/credit cards without permission to spend on things without his knowledge ( had an ex friend do this constantly to her boyfriend and she’d always condone it because “he’ll get over it” )
guilting him for hanging out with friends/family over you and making him choose between you and friends/family
telling him “you don’t love me if you *insert harmless activity he wants to do here* “
being rude or mean to him in front of others to assert dominance or power over him
downloading apps to spy on his phone activity (yes, this is a thing “”regular”” people do) or snooping on his social media to see who he’s talking to
hitting him, slapping him, punching him, shoving him. literally how do people not understand slapping your male partner is bad. people tend to find this funny in media and society and its weird. KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT PERMISSION.
I come from a family of very forward and manipulative women and i see it in media all the time. it’s fucked and people need to not be accepting of young girls acting like snot-nosed, abusive shit heads that think they can get away with manipulation and cruelty because they happen to be girls.
and let me add this. ABUSIVE TEEN GIRLFRIENDS TURN INTO ABUSIVE GROWN ASS WOMEN GIRLFRIENDS WHO TURN INTO ABUSIVE WIVES.
if you have an abusive teen or young adult gf right now fellas, leave. don’t let her use you to get her shit right. you’ll be so fucked up by the time she gets it together if she ever does and believe that most likely she won’t.
Can i just add that ive seen young queer girls do this to their girlfriends. Girls can be abusers and you are right to leave.
Women/young girls can definitely be just as abusive. I knew a young man that got ran over and had his leg broken by his girlfriend because (in her words he annoyed her) He refused to press charges.
Another young lady started to hit her ex boyfriend because he wouldn’t take her back because of the abuse. He called the cops on her and they literally started laughing at him because she was very petite in comparison to him. Anyone can be abusive and I wish more people understood that.
one more thing: -going through their phone without their permission how the fuck do people think this is okay
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