I don’t know how this family can get away with this. I would encourage anyone who can to report this to CPS, even if the blood is fake this is not ok, at all.
I will not link to the original videos as I don’t want them to get money for child abuse..
This poor child, Cody, seems particularly in danger and the reality is this family is getting these kids to say it’s not abuse as though a child if that age can easily and safely disagree.
This is a terrible situation.
When a child is crying, when you’re yelling at them at the top of their lungs, when you push them into a book shelf and give them what looks like a bloody nose, that is NOT a prank! That is NOT funny!
stop excusing abusive behaviour with “im mentally ill!” ESPECIALLY the “why do you hate mentally ill people” shit. you are a huge reason as to why we are often seen as inherently abusive. you don’t get a pass because you’re mentally ill. you can EXPLAIN your behavior but excusing your abusive behavior is almost a little abusive in itself. no one will be less traumatized because their abuser is mentally ill.
yes, i know, it sucks being mentally ill and can affect our relationships but you don’t get a pass. you have to reflect on your actions and take responsibility for them.
ladies, and anyone for that matter, if you think it’s cute to insult and hit your boyfriend, imagine it the other way around. what if your boyfriend started slapping you and hitting you when he was upset? what if he started going through your phone and questioning everyone you hung out with? what if your boyfriend pressured you into sex, and insulted you when you said no?
My guy, three of my worst abusers were abuse survivors. The stereotypical bully usually goes home to an abusive family. The antis on this website, who regularly talk about maiming and killing us, are abuse survivors (sometimes) who likely don’t have a good outlet or aren’t receiving therapy.
The cycle of abuse is something you absolutely need to take into consideration here, because YES, in fact, survivors are more likely to be abusers than anyone else.
At many points in my life I, too, have found myself wanting to give into abusive tendencies. I’m not proud to say this, but sometimes I did. Does this make me a bad person? Well, in the eyes of someone I’ll always be bad, but that won’t stop me from striving to be better than myself in those moments.
What helped me is I was able to vent my anger and frustrations to a trusted adult. I realize that therapy/counseling isn’t something everyone has access to, but if possible I would at least recommend getting a trusted friend/adult/loved one to listen to how you feel and reassure you.
TL;DR: Look into the cycle of abuse, anon.
-Mod Disgrace
Ugh anon this is a literal thing that is taught in psychology. People learn behavior from their abusers that they don’t mean to and are more likely to become abusers because of it. I used some very shitty abusive tactics that I learned from my parents on my ex and was horrified when I realized what it was and what I was doing so I checked myself and forced that behavior away
This is a legit thing not something meant to attack you with. A human is nurtured by the events that happen in their lives, which unfortunately includes abuse. The human brain is a malleable thing that changes constantly in response to stimuli.
However, this does not in anyway mean that people are destined to be abusive. We have a choice, as illustrated by my case. But we won’t realize we need to make that choice without the proper education to do so, which is why I am glad this post exists.
Abuse survivors you are the NUMBER ONE demographic at risk for becoming abusers. You hear me?? NUMBER. ONE. The most accurate way to tell if someone will become an abuser is to ask if they have been abused in the past. So when someone says “what you’re doing is abusive” and you little shits reply “I can’t believe you just said this to an abuse survivor do you know how shitty that is?” You are actively ignoring the warning signs of your own future abusive behavior. Don’t shy away from your abusive warning signs, face them head on and take them the fuck out NOW, I promise you they will become a bigger problem later on.
I have someone staying in my hotel tonight that made me think that this would be worth sharing here.
If you are running away/trying to hide from someone that is frightening, abusing, harassing you, and you find yourself staying in a hotel to avoid being found, there’s an extra precaution you can take.
When you check in, ask the front desk clerk to put you as “Unlisted”. They’ll know what you’re talking about. What this means is that as far as anyone other than you and the front desk clerks are concerned, you’re not there. If someone tries to call for you and your room, “I’m sorry. I don’t have anyone registered under that name.” Same thing goes for it someone shows up at the desk. “Unlisted” means you’re untouchable.
Please, please, if you find yourself in trouble and seeking refuge in a hotel, do this. It’s really quick, easy, and painless for the front desk clerk to do, and they are not going to judge you for it.
Please use actual words, not just code words. I work in a hotel and have NEVER heard of “Unlisted”. If someone were to come up to me and say that I would just look at you, confused, and ask for clarification.
Just flat out tell the front desk that you’re avoiding an abuser, if you say that you’re just avoiding something or someone, we may hesitate to comply, because you may be hiding from the police or law-enforcement. Please tell the front desk what you actually want us to do. Most places sign privacy/non-disclosure type agreements and if you say: “Hey, I’m hiding from a very bad situation and there might be some abusive people following me. Can you please either put me under a different name or make sure that no one contacts me?” we’ll do it and wont speak another word. Most places would even help you look up resources and try to get you transportation.
You can make it so most phones will be no contact, put up the do-not-disturb sign, and when shift change happens, if you’re still awake, tell the next person, because sometimes shift change is chaotic and important stuff can fall through the cracks. If you’re staying for multiple days, ask to speak with the general manager about your situation and they’ll make sure everything is enforced.
I worked at a hotel for almost 3 years, and I can confirm with the second post. You can additionally tell us at the front desk that no one is allowed to phone you, but you can phone out of your room.
Please do not be vague about it, we’ll likely think you’re up to something illegal. Just be upfront about it. No one’s allowed to see the guest list (or your name on the computer) besides the people working behind the counter, it’s a part of the confidentiality agreement.
Fuck I reblogged this before… Ignore that one. This is the right one
Being victimized or traumatized as a child can have myriad consequences on a character. Today, I’ll be focusing on how to portray some of the emotional aftereffects.
Also, here’s a very important thing: a lot of abusive people will not show their abusive side at all in front of non-victims. Perhaps your friend claims her mother is emotionally abusive, but when you meet her mother, the woman is very sweet and generous and makes for great conversation and even treats you guys to ice cream or something.
Abusive people are alarmingly good at coming across as perfectly good people when they’re not alone with their victims,. They can flip like a switch between being scary and being amiable. Some might even go the extra mile to turn people against you, making it seem like you’re just being selfish and they’re not at fault. The two-faced act may not always be intentional, but that doesn’t make it any less damaging. In fact, it can make things worse because people may not believe you and you may not get the support you need.
So, if someone tells you that their parent/significant other/etc is emotionally abusive, and your first thought is “But they were so nice when I met them!”, this is probably what’s happening. Please don’t dismiss them just because you may have had a positive experience with someone that makes their life hell when you’re not looking. Listen to them.
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