Our school used to ask children who were late questions about maths, but those that they can’t answer yet. And then they made kids write down that they don’t know math. My 11yo classmate (who was always great at math) was crying after this.
Oh god, my elementary school was hell.
I remember this one music teacher who, for some reason, REALLY fucking hated autistic kids. I would know, because everyone in my weird therapy group was targeted while everyone else was ignored.
I saw her physically drag a kid out and threaten to get him suspended because he was to scared to dance solo in front of his peers.
There was also “lunch detention,” and they didn’t fuck around with that. They didn’t isolate the students like that, they fucking shoved them in a separate room and forbade them from sitting together or talking. They slowly brought in several teachers and eventually the principal, and they all, one by one, told us that we were horrible, reprehensible people who would never be successful.
And you wanna know HOW you got lunch detention? Not finishing your work on time, even if it was a one-time thing.
State sanctioned child abuse
‘Child abuse’
Y’all are insane.
It may not be child abuse but honestly, some of this shit is fucking insane and harmful to the students than it is helpful.
what’s up with girls that feel the need to destroy the “weak fragile ego of a man” to feel empowered. how insecure do you have to be for the only way to feel confident is by ruining the confidence of others. how bitter are you if you can only feel special by hurting others.
Framing abuse as “hetero culture” is harmful both to straight people and queer people bc it teaches the former that abuse is normal in their relationships, and the latter that abuse can’t happen in theirs, making it to where neither gets help
If you hear a guy say that his girlfriend is crazy,
LET HIM SAY IT
Further still, press the subject (in a gentle and compassionate way, not an accusatory one)! Yeah he might just be a douch, but there is a pretty good chance that there’s more to it. For a lot of guys, the idea that we can be abused with anything other than something very serious or dangerous doesn’t register. The language to say “I’m being abused and/or mistreated by my girlfriend” doesn’t exist for a lot of us. I’ve had friends say that their girlfriend is crazy in passing and upon me pressing them for details, have told me about how they’re being beaten, manipulated, harassed, and controlled. Most men don’t just say stuff about our romantic partners at random because contrary to what some people believe, we care for and love those we are with.
It’s not cute, quirky, funny, or feminist to throw us aside like this. If you really care about male victims of abuse, act like it. You just might stop a good man from breaking. This is the type of thing that coaxed people to find relief in alcohol, drugs, or worse. Men need to be able to talk about their feelings but that doesn’t mean anything if nobody is willing to listen.
That is the most victim-blamey question you could ask a person
not feeling safe at home is just such a visceral violent thing and if you’ve ever experienced that I’m really sorry, you’re brave and strong and it’s gonna be okay
start calling bullying what it really is. peer abuse. no more ‘bullying builds character’ or ‘be the bigger person’ shit. it’s time to recognize that this type of abuse can be just as damaging and just as traumatizing. at worst, it makes people suicidal and too scared to be themselves. not just in the moment but potentially for the rest of their lives. being abused by your peers is immensely harmful and it’s about time people admit that
hey lots not fucking keep devaluing the word “abuse” by comparing someone you love and trust systematically manipulating controlling and hurting you to being picked on at school
i get that internet culture has intensely preached “anything thats really bad is abuse” but thats not true. things can be traumatizing and terrifying without being abuse. abuse is a specific term, stop using it incorrectly
this is the same difference as the one between domestic violence and battery. they are both TERRIBLE but they are DIFFERENT THINGS.
hey, you know what? the term ‘peer abuse’ was actually first suggested to me by my therapist a few years ago and it has helped me tremendously come to terms with the years of verbal and physical abuse i had to experience at the hands of my peers in a supposedly safe environment. this has nothing to do with internet culture.
let’s not keep devaluing the traumatic effects bullying can have by simply referring to it as “being picked on” when it’s for the most part much more than that. there have been recorded cases where people have developed c-ptsd from bullying. bullying is abuse. full stop.
dictionaries define abuse in the following way: “treat with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly”, well, guess what? that’s exactly what happened to me and many others. our peers took advantage of us, laughed at us, threatened us, and sometimes even hit us. usually over the course of many months or even years. i’m sorry but that is abuse and, as i said, it’s about time people admit that
You know a lot of the time letting things happen because it’s religious custom or whatever is fine but when it comes to rape and child marriage and whatever other disgusting thing it really should just have no bearing whatsoever.
ifesbob 