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If you’re shopping on Thanksgiving

retail-truestory:

PLEASE DO NOT SAY “I’M SO SORRY YOU HAVE TO WORK TODAY

Stores shouldn’t be open on Thanksgiving. But we are because people like you decide to shop last second. Don’t remind us that we should be home with our fmailies when we’re catering to you instead because you tried to beat the crowds and shop last second or because you forgot stuff.

Personally, I just don’t need to hear it. I offered to work on Thanksgiving. I have no time constraints that day. I wanted the extra money. I anticpate a busy day and wanted to help out.

But not everyone else is like that. Almost every other retail worker has to work because you’re out shopping and they’re not allowed to take off. Whether it’s Thanksgiving afternoon or Thanksgiving night with Black Friday sales, they have to be there. You don’t. So please, please, PLEASE do not rub it in their faces that they have to be working.

And if you not only say, “I’m so sorry you have to work today” AND are mean to them or give them a hard time, then you’re even worse. It’s bad enough retail workers have to work when they shouldn’t for YOU. Don’t be a jerk and make things worse or more difficult for them.

This has been a Retail PSA.

If you’re shopping on Thanksgiving

retail-truestory:

PLEASE DO NOT SAY “I’M SO SORRY YOU HAVE TO WORK TODAY

Stores shouldn’t be open on Thanksgiving. But we are because people like you decide to shop last second. Don’t remind us that we should be home with our fmailies when we’re catering to you instead because you tried to beat the crowds and shop last second or because you forgot stuff.

Personally, I just don’t need to hear it. I offered to work on Thanksgiving. I have no time constraints that day. I wanted the extra money. I anticpate a busy day and wanted to help out.

But not everyone else is like that. Almost every other retail worker has to work because you’re out shopping and they’re not allowed to take off. Whether it’s Thanksgiving afternoon or Thanksgiving night with Black Friday sales, they have to be there. You don’t. So please, please, PLEASE do not rub it in their faces that they have to be working.

And if you not only say, “I’m so sorry you have to work today” AND are mean to them or give them a hard time, then you’re even worse. It’s bad enough retail workers have to work when they shouldn’t for YOU. Don’t be a jerk and make things worse or more difficult for them.

This has been a Retail PSA.

adventures-in-poor-planning:

madtomedgar:

thinking about the statement that all maladaptive coping mechanisms were helpful and, well, adaptive, at some point, and that they become maladaptive when the circumstance changes or when their detriments outweigh their benefits, and how the framework of “this is no longer helpful to you” is probably better than “this is a bad habit/this is bad for you.” How much better “you don’t have to live like that anymore” feels than “that’s a bad habit you picked up when you were in a bad place.” “It’s ok, you can look now,” vs “you’ve been tainted/infected/sullied by a previous bad circumstance.”

Thought about this today while reading about hermit crabs. 

Hermit crabs start out their lives tiny and defenceless, and they choose a small shell to protect them. When they grow too big for the shell, big enough that it stops them from growing more, they abandon it and move on to a shell better for them at that size.

Does that mean the old shell was a terrible mistake? No, because it protected them back when they were smaller and more defenceless! But now it’s limiting their growth, and it’s time for them to find a better shell.

Humans, like hermit crabs, pick up shells when we need protection. Sometimes, we need to ditch those shells to keep growing! If we look at them as shells instead of Irredeemable Moral Failures, it’s a hell of a lot easier to let them go.