superwoman1111:

dechart:

wholeheartedsuggestions:

nonsemsical:

wholeheartedsuggestions:

🚩 some red flags i wish i’d not ignored 🚩

don’t choose love of them over love of you.

• they always make you the one to blame and make you feel bad but don’t take blame
• you’re fighting so often your friends know who you’re fighting with before you even say
• you feel the urge to apologize just to fix things
• they make you feel your best but more often make you feel your worst
• their love is conditional
• when you make up, you’re just waiting for things to fall apart again
• you question if you’re a bad person because they tell you something is wrong with you
• in your head, you know it’s better to leave but that “but i love them” always makes you stay
• you question their actions but brush it off as paranoia or blame it on a bad day
• it’s a cycle
• people in your life are telling you this is bad for you
• sometimes they’re almost too good at making you feel better after you’ve made up, like not losing them is worth it
• you begin to think love is synonymous with staying or sacrificing
• you put them before yourself even if they never asked you to
• you put them before everyone in your life
• they come to mind whenever you have something you feel you need to talk out
• you aren’t sure if they love you back
• you give more than you get
• the facts don’t always add up right
• you catch them in little lies or find them breaking promises
• you cry over them more often than you smile with them
• you feel like you’re playing a game or being played

FEEL FREE TO ADD… THIS APPLIES TO ALL KINDS OF RELATIONSHIPS

they come to mind whenever you have something you feel you need to talk out

can someone explain this to me please? (Idw an argument I just want to learn)

ex: you have therapy and they’re the main topic or if you’re with friends and want to vent, you vent about them

Just so yall know, toxic friendships are a thing. I can relate to most of those because I had a really, really, really toxic friend till i called it cuts. It’s really important to emphasize that it doesn’t happen only in romantic relationships.

@dechart Same. I think it was made clear that this applies to all types of relationships tho. Sometimes our friends r closer than lovers bc we allow them in further. So it hurts harder when u realize this is what happened.