ragabond:

hidingoutbackstage:

hidingoutbackstage:

I am so untrusting of minors on discord as well as feeling bad for them and I think both feelings can coexist

I have been in public discord communities where the majority of fans are minors and honestly the behavior they exhibit is both inappropriate and shows a lack of caution

There have been kids I’ve seen who immediately post pictures of their face in photo-sharing channels, but it gets worse than that. They’ve posted baby pictures, pictures of them with friends and family members (mentioning those people by name as well) pictures at locations with captions relating that location to where they live (“me at the park by my house!”) pictures of them at school.

If you are on semi-decent terms with these kids, and you ask, they’ll often tell you what state they live in. Plenty of kids outside the U.S. will straight up tell you what country they live in as if to brag. If you ask someone what time it is for them out of concern that they’re staying up to late, they’ll tell you what time zone they live in and often end up talking about sleep schedule, home life, etc.

Kids will turn on their cameras in a public vc if someone else has theirs on too. Kids will feel embarrassed that they’re on mute in a vc and always explain it with “my mic isn’t working,” never, “I’m not comfortable sharing my voice”

They’ll share personal information like interpersonal relationships those in the server aren’t a part of. They’ll link their other social medias, even private ones. They’ll introduce themselves in introduction channel with real name, age, and often their neurodivergency or even their triggers. And if you have a vent channel, they’ll use it like a substitute therapist.

If you’re a minor in a public Discord server, I get that you want to make friends, I really do. But you have GOT to be so careful in these situations. You CANNOT trust people, no matter how nice they are to you. You should ALWAYS exercise caution when operating and being part of a discord server. Please, this is not me being a wet blanket, this is me trying to help you be safe.

(P.S. Imo, minors should never be mods if 18+ people who know what
they’re doing are on the server)

also be VERY careful of servers with a mix of minors and adults that advertise themselves as “crazy crackhead insane” and as fun places without restrictive rules. they may make you feel grown up and cool bc they don’t coddle you and you get to speak unfiltered, but what they’re really doing is refusing to set boundaries regarding their conduct surrounding minors and are placing the onus of boundaries on YOU, who is not fully developed, is very susceptible to peer influence, and should not be expected to be the one standing up to literal adults.