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I hate family vloggers so much imagine having this little respect for your adolescent kid’s privacy and personal life

Do You Know What Children Are

They don’t have jobs, nor do they pay for rent, utilities, or food. That’s the textbook definition of a freeloader.

no it’s the textbook definition of “children”

“why isn’t this 3 year old paying rent? fucking freeloader i dont know why i keep you around”

This has the same energy as “ambulances aren’t your taxi to the hospital”

Imagine making the choice to bring a child into this world and then declaring that child to be a leech on your resources. Like, did you not expect that you’d have to pay for your kid’s food and other aspects of their upkeep? Did you somehow miss all the memos about what parenthood entails? Or were you actively ignoring them in favor of a plan to birth not a family member, but an employee?

THERE ARE LAWS AGAINST CHILD LABOR, HOW THE FUCK DO YOU EXPECT THEM TO ACQUIRE A JOB??

I’m pretty sure the dictionary didn’t specify it as “a legal adult who-” does those things because they thought anyone reading the definition would be smart enough to intuit that it doesn’t apply to those who are under the age of majority, and thus aren’t expected to be providing those things in the first place.

Or it’s possible these potatoes really *don’t* know What Children Are.

I think a lot of these people – a depressing number of parents in general, really – liked their kids when they were cute little babies and toddlers who didn’t have their own opinions or demand privacy or whose boundaries and personal autonomy could be more easily over-ridden because you can pick them up and tote them around.

When you have a baby, you’re very much the center of that baby’s world. They’re completely dependent on you.

But once the kids get older and start being more opinionated and having more complicated feelings, and don’t just idolize their parents, and maybe start to realize their parents are flawed human beings just like every other human who’s ever existed, and you can’t just stuff them in a foofy dress or whatever to make them Be Cute on command, there’s a certain kind of parent who feels very offended and threatened by that.

It’s like when your kitten or puppy grows up to be an adult cat or dog, and they’re not “cute” anymore.

And that’s when a lot of shit about “earning your keep” starts, and a lot of the guilt-tripping, too, I think, when kids don’t just fall down at these parents’ feet in gratitude and obeisance.

So basically what you’re saying is they got Pet Syndrome with children – puppies are cute, but grown dogs are work so return them to the shelter I guess

Pretty much? ¯_(ツ)_/¯ 

My biological mother did pretty much that about the time she lost her marbles when I was about 9. And she’s certainly not the only one I’ve known whose kids hit more or less that development stage and went “Oh, wait, I don’t want to be a parent anymore, this is hard and I don’t like it”

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