Neurotypical Things

cerebellumpunk:

So I was chatting with this guy and decided to be open about my disorder; I did not tell him what it was and just told him a couple of symptoms and showed him the diagnostic criteria with the name cut off. 

He asked me a bunch of informative questions, which I thought was cool since he was willing to learn and then he looked at me and said: 

“Haha, I’m glad I didn’t fall in love with you.” 

And legit I froze??? I usually never stand up for myself because I’m terrified of rejection but I had completely gotten too angry at that statement. I told him it was insulting to say that and he should apologise but I also figured that was too good for him so I decided to frame it in a way he’d understand 

Because with neurotypicals everything has to be framed in a way they can’t just accept the shit they say is unacceptable.

People with borderline personality disorder often want to be loved by someone and want to be in relationships, whether it’s platonically or romantically. Of course keep in mind, not all but some do like every person wants/
And honestly I see my community being one of the most scared when it comes to addressing their feelings and keeping things in check, sometimes it literally feels like we’re in water and trying to gather floating seashells together in a tightly knit bag – sometimes we succeed and sometimes the bag breaks.

And the majority, but not all, of people suffering from a PD often come from abusive homes or abusive relationships, or some other form of trauma that left them craving affection and attention. and the reason we can’t control our emotions is because we were brought up in environments that wouldn’t let us express anything other than fear or complete numbness. 

And you tell them to their face that you’re so glad you never fell in love with us, that you’re so happy you dodged that bullet, that you’ve never given a single fucking thought about giving us affection and you assume that this is a laughable statement. 

And then when I frame it like this; you’re offended because it makes you look like an asshole? Like do neurotypical not have any decency to think ‘hey this statement is kinda fucked up to say to a person who clearly shared something intimate with me’ – like even if you didn’t know the person has a PD or is completely fine – who the fuck gives you the right to say that to someone???? 

Do ya’ll have no critical thinking skills to even consider the fact that such a statement may cause someone who has issues with relationships to feel like an unwanted piece of shit??? 

this has been a rant @bpdrotten @accidentaloverload @softgrunge-silverheels this is the bullshit i dealt with today